Terrible advice. You spend a very large portion of your life at work. Making friends that you can blow off steam and share memories with and building a network can be done simultaneously.
You Shouldn't Make Friends at Work
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#52Terrible advice. You spend a very large portion of your life at work. Making friends that you can blow off steam and share memories with and building a network can be done simultaneously.
I'm in my 60's. My observation is people that pick up friends at work during their career always have a job, get recruited for jobs, they survive layoffs more often. And deal with stress at work better when things get shitty. So it's a positive thing for your career and mental health.
Management thinks employees having work friends is a bad thing. Cause it reduces the power they have over employees.
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#53Why stop there? Don't marry and avoid drama. Have friends with benefits and keep boundaries. Don't have friends/kids/... and avoid all related drama.
Millions of incels agree, but Nothing ventured, nothing gained as they say. Obviously, the article is absurdly reductionist and lacking in nuance.
At the end of life, what's more important: friendships regardless of source or putting up walls and boundaries to avoid all possible sources of joy and sorrow? Sounds like the coward's way out if you ask me.
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#54Hard disagree. I spent a very significant amount of my waking time working. This is one of the best opportunities to make friends, and IMHO it's also nicer to work with friends than with non-friends. Most of the friends I made as an adult came from a work related setting.
Hard disagree.
When you inject friendship in a work relationship, you are also injecting mechanics that are not work-related and can ultimately lead to problems in the work setting.
You can be pleasant around co-workers but being all out friends is dangerous.
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#55Down the line, I believe it is important to be sociable and a “nice guy” at work, but I also believe that making friends in the workplace is very dangerous. It’s a work place, you never know what can happen, you could get fired, or hesitate to jump on a good opportunity outside of the company because you are emotionally attached to “friends”.
> very dangerous You and I have different definitions of 'very dangerous'.
Yeah, but you caught my meaning, right ?