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> More than ten per cent of the eligible men today won’t marry, but that will largely be due to the fact that they prefer to remain bachelors. I'm sure that's the full story on why they won't marry, 1940's era author ;)
Not sure what this is getting at
>> By marrying, a man becomes a better employment risk. Married men usually are regarded as more steady, more trustworthy employees than single men. This is logical. Marriage exerts a stabilizing influence on most men. Oh wow has that changed. Kids and families = time away from the office. Marriage is also the leading cause of divorce, which tends to reduce productivity across a few years, especially if child custody…
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Unfortunately this was probably pretty close to reality for most women in the timeframe that this author was writing this in.
Yes, given the author says this: > A basic argument for marriage is that it offers a logical division of labor. Imagine how much more complicated and inconvenient life would be if men had to do their own cooking and sewing, and women—all women—had to compete with men for a livelihood! Of course, since '46 capitalism has demanded women enter the workforce to compete with men and drive down wages.
> More than ten per cent of the eligible men today won’t marry, but that will largely be due to the fact that they prefer to remain bachelors. I'm sure that's the full story on why they won't marry, 1940's era author ;)
Not sure what this is getting at
I was curious for a summary of what the book suggested. Here is Kagi’s summarizer: - Emotional maturity and stability are key traits for a happy marriage. People who are well-adjusted, have good self-confidence, and can handle problems well tend to have more successful marriages. - Communication and companionship are vital for a happy marriage. Couples need to develop a strong bond through sharing interests, aspirati…
Non-native speaker here. Is there a ranking to "key", "vital", "crucial", and "important", or should I read these as being equivalently important? I'm taking the latter as lesser than the former three, though that also depends on what Kagi is I suppose.
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You don't think this is true?
Judging by how you feel it necessary to even ask such a ridiculous question, I strongly doubt you would accept any answer but that which supports your anachronistic views.
>> By marrying, a man becomes a better employment risk. Married men usually are regarded as more steady, more trustworthy employees than single men. This is logical. Marriage exerts a stabilizing influence on most men. Oh wow has that changed. Kids and families = time away from the office. Marriage is also the leading cause of divorce, which tends to reduce productivity across a few years, especially if child custody…
> Marriage is also the leading cause of divorce Did you mean to say children instead of Marriage? You can't have divorce without marriage.
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Search does come first. Someone would be happy to have you, I'm almost sure. And if not, well, you know what to work on. I thought I was unworthy for a long time, and basically invested in myself until my 40s. Then when I started looking in earnest, I got married scary fast.
Where do you look? Inside my friend circle there's nobody (all married or in a relationship), Tinder is a bust (I don't even remember when my last match was). I used to attend some Linux clubs but even if they are available they are so defensive about a man coming over to chat that the best thing I can muster is saying how good the cola is... Nobody at workplace either...
I'm happy that there are more women in computing than before, but I would bet money against even finding one, let alone a single one who is a match, at a Linux club.
It's a numbers game, and you have to go where the numbers are. But you also shouldn't go to spots with lots of single women - like yoga or something - solely to pick one up.
Dating with an aim to marry is not easy for any demographic, especially if you're starting from scratch, but you only have to hit the jackpot once
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Yes, given the author says this: > A basic argument for marriage is that it offers a logical division of labor. Imagine how much more complicated and inconvenient life would be if men had to do their own cooking and sewing, and women—all women—had to compete with men for a livelihood! Of course, since '46 capitalism has demanded women enter the workforce to compete with men and drive down wages.
This is a weird way to frame women working.