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No real advice to give other than keep on keeping on.
Could be worse, also 28 and I just got laid off after my first year of being a technical product manager. I have a somewhat scattered three years of dev experience prior, although around 2yrs was my longest stint. Been applying to jobs for about five weeks and other than a few interviews nothing has kicked back. Either no response or flat out denied, contemplating just re-learning a bunch of leetcode stuff I hate. Al…
Even if your getting a few interviews is something then nothing. How are you approaching these interviews? Your track record is not a black mark, it's just a busy market out there. You have to pitch it just right to get it. Mangle the Tech Product Manager skills with your dev stuff. Interviews are tough and practice beforehand. Ignore what your friends make because that will sour your mood.
Fortunately, my friends who are better off are very supportive - in some of these interviews I can't help but think I sound desperate or maybe just annoying.
Thanks for your kind words
Try not to isolate voluntarily and work a bit less. Put down a strong regimen of time to work and time to relax.
Interview for jobs, for me I learned a lot for interviews when prepping, and it helped me out of the endless feeling of “there’s light at the end of the tunnel but it isn’t getting brighter”… it’s also a lot easier to say to your adviser “i have a job lined up and leaving”
I went from selling three businesses to being homeless on the street. I don’t think, unfortunately, there’s a magic solution. I can provide some generic advice about what helped me: 1. Determining who my actual support network was. I invested in my repairing and strengthening my bonds with my friends and family who had been there for me - and while not cutting ties with fair weather friends, deemphasized spending tim…
If you don't mind me asking: Did you blow that money somehow? Or have you just sold the businesses for very little? Or was some other disaster involved?
Been exacly there when I was 25. Breakup after 5 years of first serious relationship, nearing the end of a phd. It sucked. I'm now 15 years past that and my life couldn't be better. This is what I did: 1. I got a new hobby involving regular workouts and which was somewhat social with new people. Never really did sports before that, but this really helped me from getting isolated from society. I found new friends and…
King, I dropped out of my PhD (probably shouldn't have, but I don't regret it because the build back is going really well, I moved back from America, was unemployed for a few months). I know this will sound wildly out of order, but do start working out. It's been crazy how much of my self esteem and idea about myself changed. Like transforming your body will legit give you confidence about other stuff. Next is try to…
Reads like my last year of phd studies. Try not to isolate voluntarily and work a bit less. Put down a strong regimen of time to work and time to relax. Interview for jobs, for me I learned a lot for interviews when prepping, and it helped me out of the endless feeling of “there’s light at the end of the tunnel but it isn’t getting brighter”… it’s also a lot easier to say to your adviser “i have a job lined up and le…
I do agree with the relaxing part, treat relaxing like it's your job. If your university has a sauna or hot tub, maybe give those a shot. It has to be real relaxation though, you put your phone (email) down for the day and you are not thinking about it or feeding that itch. Move slower than the pace of research (or the pace of a corporation) and mentally checkout when the work day is over.
ymmv, but the tough-love mindset worked best for me:
- Nobody's coming to save you. You have to save yourself.
- People with extraordinary good or bad luck tend to make it themselves.
- Failure is an event, not a person.