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Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by dewey »

meowtastic wrote: post #36
dewey wrote: post #7

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> I used to spend a lot of time posting frequently on LinkedIn Maybe it's just the people I have added on LinkedIn but it always strikes me as a very superficial place and not the one for deeper connections or discussions about projects. Twitter on the other side seems to be more promising (at least in my case).

I find Twitter conversations are just as shallow unfortunately. I do follow a couple of people there - Benedict Evans and patio11, but comments on their tweets aren't any better.

I think your chances of having a good conversation is higher on small accounts in the niche you are interested in.

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by clsec »

giantg2 wrote: post #25

I don't think I've ever met someone online and later met them in person. Except for dating sites. It seems more difficult to make friends the older I get. I think at least part of it is that everyone is so busy.

I met someone on tribe.net back in the early/mid 00's who I met in person a couple of years later. We dated but it didn't work out (PDX - SFO). Though we are still very good friends about 20 years later.

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Post by Cerium »

langsoul-com wrote: post #30

Niche activities or are always the best friend catchers. As it automatically filters out anyone not interested. Anyone who does chat would immediately have a common interest. Because it's niche, there tends to be original or unique ideas, making connection easier. That being said, you can't hide your identity and sing it loud and proud to any and everyone. My blog is anonymous so there's no friend catcher effect.

Agreed. A number of years ago I started a small hobby business in a niche. It has been a great friend catcher.

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by meowtastic »

dewey wrote: post #51
meowtastic wrote: post #36

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I find Twitter conversations are just as shallow unfortunately. I do follow a couple of people there - Benedict Evans and patio11, but comments on their tweets aren't any better.

I think your chances of having a good conversation is higher on small accounts in the niche you are interested in.

How do you find those smaller accounts though? When you look by topic you tend to get tweets from popular influencers. And I may sound lazy but I don't like the idea of doomscrolling through Twitter just to find the right person.

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Post by tartoran »

egypturnash wrote: post #50

Everything described in this history could have happened just as easily if he'd posted everything under the name "Raver Tomato". Aliases give you the option of more easily disassociating things from your legal identity, as well as making it harder for people to find all the embarassing shit you posted when you were a teenager.

That’s what I was thinking as well. Using one’s real name adds the possibility of that being used against you as well as feeding spammers and other nefarious actors.

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Post by tartoran »

saiya-jin wrote: post #35
giantg2 wrote: post #25

I don't think I've ever met someone online and later met them in person. Except for dating sites. It seems more difficult to make friends the older I get. I think at least part of it is that everyone is so busy.

Moving to a new location triggers interesting effect in many people - they shed their social fears and laziness and try to socialize more. Living in a hub that attracts many such folks gives one an endless stream of people that are looking for friendship, consciously or sub-consciously. The drawback is, long term retention is not high in such a location. Its not nice to see people with whom you connected so well leav…

> The drawback is, long term retention is not high in such a location.

Many would be surprised to find out the friendships they made weren’t really friendships after all but mere acquaintances even if they felt like intimate friendships..

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by tartoran »

PcChip wrote: post #44
bgdkbtv wrote: post #19

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Yeah righto mate, you started browsing the web when you were 3?

I started my son on computer games (minecraft, Starcraft, borderlands) when he was 2.9

How fast did he learn how to read? I have a 4 year old that can recognize letters and numbers and slowly starting to connect the dots and read but I haven’t introduced him to computers yet. Im sure reading would improve faster but I feel there’s plenty of things to learn outside of computers at this age.

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Post by lysecret »

Met my previous co-founder and now one of my best friends through the Machine Learning reddit talking about Using Embeddings for medical Diagnosis codes ~2017. So I can attest to "putting yourself out there".

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by rozularen »

bgdkbtv wrote: post #19
rozularen wrote: post #18

I don't know, I think your dad's advide is pretty spot on? Just that it isn't mutually exclusive with the fact that IF you want to be recognized by the content you put up, you'll have to associate your name with it. I started surfing the web in the early 00's when I was like 3 or 4 yo so it sticked to me the whole nickname thing way before asking for First Name and Last Name, cell phone, ID number, street address was…

Yeah righto mate, you started browsing the web when you were 3?

My aunt owned a cyber about that time. Instead of spending my free time playing in the (dangerous) streets of Brazil, I spent it playing Warcraft III, CS and surfing the web. Yes, I don't remember exactly when but I think I was, at most, 5 years old?

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by lambic »

giantg2 wrote: post #25

I don't think I've ever met someone online and later met them in person. Except for dating sites. It seems more difficult to make friends the older I get. I think at least part of it is that everyone is so busy.

Back when Usenet was popular I met a group of people from rec.autos.sport.f1 a couple of times, once for a karting day and once attending the Montreal GP.

I was also part of an online trivia group for a long time and met a lot of people from that many times (and married and divorced one of them).

I assume similar things still happen these days in Reddit and Facebook groups but I seem to have drifted away from that kind of online activity.

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