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Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by bawbag »

I am in my late 20s and I don't do all that new age stuff.

Girls are literally just for getting my balls emptied.

Never is Next. No is Maybe. Maybe is Yes. Yes is Yes.

I am here, I work and eat and sleep just to have sex with girls. I am unashamed and unburdened. I don't use the internet, I just talk to all girls from 18-40 everywhere and 60% of them make me blush.

When I die, I won't look back crying over how I could have been more woke.

Get over it guys and girls. WELCOME to nature.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by ericmcer »

osacial wrote: post #49
ericmcer wrote: post #37

Earlier quoted context omitted.

How do you convey that via 6 pictures and ~100 words. Also “convince a woman to mate with him because he will help her with the kids”...

Are you asking(for a friend) how to date?

No it was a mocking rhetorical question for the op.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by lotsofpulp »

souprock wrote: post #41
lotsofpulp wrote: post #27

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Were all 11 kids under the age of 3? FYI, it takes differing amounts of attention and work to care for children at different ages. I don’t know if you have ever cared for a baby, but I have with a ratio of 2 kids under 3 years old and 1 adult (myself), and I don’t even know how people at daycare do it with a 4 to 1 ratio.

I have 12 kids, with one more to be born this summer. The 4th and 5th were twins. Babies are not difficult. Teenagers are difficult. I have experience with both.

I think it’s safe to say you are an outlier if you can handle more than 4 infants or toddlers at once, either in terms of skill or acceptance of lower standards in levels of care.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by throwawayA666 »

float4 wrote: post #39
throwawayA666 wrote: post #28

I find women to be too shallow. But I don't feel anger towards women or feel upset about it, rather I devote my life to the things I enjoy doing.

You should probably meet more/different women then. Or at the very least you should know that there are many women who are not shallow. The funny thing is that there are both: - communities of men who think women are shallow (they spend all their time on instagram, they only care about their looks and about how wealthy and good looking their partner is); - communities of women who think men are shallow (they only wan…

I don't use any social network besides linkedin, reddit and hn if the last one counts as a social network, spending an average of 45 minutes on all of them each week.

But you're right not all of them is, but the majority I have meet country wide are from all the professions one can think of and all the life backgrounds you can imagine.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by staticman2 »

ericmcer wrote: post #37
staticman2 wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You have some odd ideas there. You might want to read The Moral Animal by Robert Wright for a more nuanced view of human nature by an evolutionary psychologist. (A field which is controversial at the best of times- but if you're going to believe something controversial but possibly true you can do a lot better than what you posted here) If I wasn't on my phone i'd type more, but in brief you have a weird idea of what…

How do you convey that via 6 pictures and ~100 words. Also “convince a woman to mate with him because he will help her with the kids”...

You don't need to find people online, do you? You can meet people other ways.

But the book does suggest, If I recall, that the best way to convince a woman you will stick around and raise kids with her is for your genes to make you very much in love with her and make you want to raise kids with her.

Some men supposedly have genes that make them fake being in love, but the book suggests women have genes that will try to sort out these fakers through natural lie detection, with varying result.

Of course, you could choose to take what I just stated with a grain of salt.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by themacguffinman »

tolbish wrote: post #43
do_not_cancel32 wrote: post #8

I am in my late 20s and a senior engineer at FAANG. I am conventionally attractive and have been asked out by numerous women over the years, even when I did not have my FAANG salary. However, I have had very few sexual partners. The article has four ideas on why men like me have fewer partners. That men lack the money for partners, that the top 10% of men outcompete the bottom 90% on social media apps, that at least…

Yes, but why would you want to replace a partner with a tube site?

Because it can be more convenient. You could ask this about a lot of things. Why replace a powerful desktop with a laptop? Why replace vinyls/CDs with MP3s? Why drink Soylent instead of eating a meal? It's a trade-off that some people choose.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by jtbayly »

lotsofpulp wrote: post #53
souprock wrote: post #41

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I have 12 kids, with one more to be born this summer. The 4th and 5th were twins. Babies are not difficult. Teenagers are difficult. I have experience with both.

I think it’s safe to say you are an outlier if you can handle more than 4 infants or toddlers at once, either in terms of skill or acceptance of lower standards in levels of care.

You’re missing the point. Daycare costs are extremely high. Why? Precisely because of what souprock says and you are actually agreeing with him. It’s not uncommon for it to cost the full pay of the mother for two kids, especially if they are infant/toddler as you say. But it is extremely uncommon for a family to have 4 kids toddler and under. Because kids grow up. So raising kids in a family instead of in a daycare is far more efficient, (ignoring for a moment all the other obvious benefits) and the cost is correspondingly lower.

Thus, balancing the budget in the context of having children often means skipping the absurd costs of daycare.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by Uwqye2134trf »

float4 wrote: post #39
throwawayA666 wrote: post #28

I find women to be too shallow. But I don't feel anger towards women or feel upset about it, rather I devote my life to the things I enjoy doing.

You should probably meet more/different women then. Or at the very least you should know that there are many women who are not shallow. The funny thing is that there are both: - communities of men who think women are shallow (they spend all their time on instagram, they only care about their looks and about how wealthy and good looking their partner is); - communities of women who think men are shallow (they only wan…

> communities of women who think men are shallow (they only want to fuck, they don't care about you at all, they spend more time on their cars than on their girlfriends).

Because most of them are ignoring nice guys, at least while the women are in their 20-s. The book "Land of the Losers" nailed it.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by lotsofpulp »

jtbayly wrote: post #57
lotsofpulp wrote: post #53

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think it’s safe to say you are an outlier if you can handle more than 4 infants or toddlers at once, either in terms of skill or acceptance of lower standards in levels of care.

You’re missing the point. Daycare costs are extremely high. Why? Precisely because of what souprock says and you are actually agreeing with him. It’s not uncommon for it to cost the full pay of the mother for two kids, especially if they are infant/toddler as you say. But it is extremely uncommon for a family to have 4 kids toddler and under. Because kids grow up. So raising kids in a family instead of in a daycare i…

Obviously costs are lower in a situation where you don’t have to pay for labor compared to a situation where you have to pay for labor.

I inferred souprock’s initial comments as daycare costs being too high due to government regulations requiring excessive labor for childcare, and my comments are to show that the regulations are not excessive, or at least not anything out of the norm compared to parents who stayed home (I don’t know anyone who can handle 4 infants by themselves).

And balancing the budget also includes the present value of future income that can be earned by a parent that stays home during toddler years versus one that continues to work and pays for daycare. Clearly, many people are betting that even the high costs of daycare are worth paying in exchange for the (increased) security of future cash flow from working.

Re: Why are fewer men in their 20s having sex?

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Post by phobosanomaly »

theodric wrote: post #14
do_not_cancel32 wrote: post #8

I am in my late 20s and a senior engineer at FAANG. I am conventionally attractive and have been asked out by numerous women over the years, even when I did not have my FAANG salary. However, I have had very few sexual partners. The article has four ideas on why men like me have fewer partners. That men lack the money for partners, that the top 10% of men outcompete the bottom 90% on social media apps, that at least…

I'm curious why a relationship with another person isn't something you'd want to prioritize. What fills your hours, and moreover, what fills your mental needs to such an extent that it can override biological imperatives?

I mostly just fill my time with work and hobbies. The rest of the time I spend alone with myself.

Doesn't fill the mental needs, but you just get better at suppressing them over the years.

Would be nice to meet someone who shared my interests and take on life, but the only ones I've found don't find me particularly attractive or already got snatched up. And what's the point of starting a relationship with someone who doesn't share your interests and take on life? Fear of dying alone? That doesn't seem to me to be a good enough reason.

Eh, well, dying alone doesn't seem too bad in an era where you can literally pursue any fascinating hobby you want with relatively low startup costs (FPV drones, dirt bikes, rock climbing, backpacking around the world, you name it).

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