Somewhat off-topic: Instead of dealing with these companies, what equipment and software would I need to do my own DNA testing at home? Has anyone written any open source applications that can interpret this data?
Surprise DNA Results Are Turning Customer-Service Reps into Therapists
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#52If ask Reddit is anything to go by this is slowly becoming normal. You have to wonder if 20-30 years from now mores will have shifted to reflect the reality that there are often familial buried secrets of every kind out there. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/search?q=Dna&restrict_sr=...
I hope so because my more is “who cares” and apparently thats not the popular thought right now
But what does it really change
The rapport you built or didnt is the same, with the people you grew up with
Whatever they taught you about infidelity is still to make your life more convenient
Find out whatever diseases you are actually predisposed to, or dont
If you have a decent life already, probability is your “real” family lived in an overpopulated bottom rung of society. If not, its still unlikely you get to be part of anything now that the secret is out. Send a note for kicks, but why create the drama?
Re: Surprise DNA Results Are Turning Customer-Service Reps into Therapists
#53Earlier quoted context omitted.
I read somewhere that paternal uncertainty is the leading cause of male violence in every culture in the world, from aboriginal Australia to New York. You wonder, if evolution (cultural or biological) has not allowed any variance in this trait - it must be necessary for reproduction. It would mean that men who don't get angry at the prospect of raising another man's children, inescapably raise another man's children.
Are you surprised? I'm not condoning violence but paternal uncertainty is pretty horrible. I split from my ex-wife due to her involvement with a past lover during our marriage and for years I wasn't sure about my youngest. It literally would eat away at me but I didn't want to test. Eventually, I did a DNA test and the test confirmed he is mine. I could adopt children. I could become a stepdad. I could never raise a…
Really glad the test came back positive. Sorry to hear about your ex.
I totally get last paragraph. If you venture into something it’s totally possible to love others’ children as your own. But to have it thrust upon you is horrid. You sacrifice not only your life - the money, the labor, the freedom, etc., but you inevitably sacrifice your ability to propagate. And that’s not an uncertainty any human should face. But of course women have 100% certainty a child is theirs (minus hospital switching schenanigans of course) so it’s really only an issue a man has to endure.
Guess this comment is a bit winding. I really don’t like to dwell on the subject I guess...