> an embryo is not a person
> but embryos aren't in that grey area, not even close.
You're begging the question. You haven't provided any reasons or arguments for your position. You've merely re-asserted it. It's akin to saying "It's true that x, because it's true that x".
How is my judgement that an embryo is innocent arbitrary? What crime has the embryo committed? What did it do to warrant being killed?
The trouble with your position is that you have to make an arbitrary judgement. You have to arbitrarily judge the fetus to be a person at some point. Is it at 12 weeks, 6 days, 32 weeks? The day before it is born? When, exactly? What criteria are you using for making that judgement? Why not the day before? Why not a day later?
My position doesn't require making an arbitrary judgement, or answering any of those silly questions. It requires making an intuitive, simple, straightforward observation: from the very moment that the sperm and the ovum meet and the genetic material between the two is exchanged (i.e., the egg is fertilized), a new human life is formed, with its own ends and identity. If nature takes its course, the person either dies naturally and the mother miscarries, or the embryo continues to develop and is subsequently born.
Further, I'm not just designating "any human cells" as innocent. I can't just designate "any human cells" and make them develop in the way that an embryo or a fetus develop. I'm talking about a specific group of spells, easily identifiable as distinct from the cells of the mother, that act in unison and coordination with one another through pregnancy to further develop the human being that has been there from the very beginning. If that is an arbitrary grouping of human cells, then I don't see how the same point can't be made to you, or to me (simply being an arbitrary collection of human cells), but everyone would recognize that this (you are an arbitrary collection of human cells, in contrast to a fully-fledged human 'life') would be absurd.
In addition, you seem to be implying that we need to use different definitions of murder in different contexts, but I don't see that's the case. How isn't the definition I provided inclusive of every instance of murder?