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In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by soVeryTired »

empath75 wrote: post #34
SomeStupidPoint wrote: post #28

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Good ol' Ben "In the Dark, All Cats Are Gray" Franklin. Apparently, that phrase actually dates back to at least 1550 -- https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/all_cats_are_grey_in_the_dark Which suddenly has me curious on the history of advice on how to get "bad bitches" -- is there some grand human tradition I've failed to learn the major milestones of? (Like fart jokes which are ~4k years old or advertisements which are ~6…

The oldest recorded joke is a fart joke— "Something which has never occurred since time immemorial; a young woman did not fart in her husband's lap." https://m.theregister.co.uk/2008/08/01/oldest_joke/

The double negative confuses me. Are they saying young women never do that or they always do it?

Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by belorn »

soVeryTired wrote: post #50
belorn wrote: post #40

A bit surprised that the article don't mention what the OKCupid blog wrote, which is that age is not a good statistical predictor for what man a woman will date. It is however an excellent predictor for men. What is an excellent predictor for what man a woman will date, according to the OKCupid data, is income of the man statistically anchored to the income of the woman. This produce a very similar looking graph to t…

I'd be interested to see a reference for that if you've got one

It just a google search away, but here is the top google search for "okcupid blog wealth"

https://theblog.okcupid.com/the-big-lies-people-tell-in-onli...

or if you just want data:

https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/800/0*N0OGjZ9WDff4gOrf.p...

Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by toomuchtodo »

csallen wrote: post #26
toomuchtodo wrote: post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

"Quite a few"

You're probably being downvoted because you're coming off as someone who saw a handful of stories in the news and concluded "this happens often" without ever looking at the denominator.

That's fine, if I cared about downvotes I wouldn't frequent Hacker News. I'm happy to state my opinion, and others are free to judge those comments with up or down votes (or replies). That's how discourse works. I'm just happy to have the chance to participate in discussions with my fellow humans.

Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by pngai »

soVeryTired wrote: post #51
empath75 wrote: post #34

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The oldest recorded joke is a fart joke— "Something which has never occurred since time immemorial; a young woman did not fart in her husband's lap." https://m.theregister.co.uk/2008/08/01/oldest_joke/

The double negative confuses me. Are they saying young women never do that or they always do it?

I could be confused too, but I would rewrite it as

"It is a universal practice for a young woman to fart in her husband's lap."

Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by belorn »

fiokoden wrote: post #42
belorn wrote: post #40

A bit surprised that the article don't mention what the OKCupid blog wrote, which is that age is not a good statistical predictor for what man a woman will date. It is however an excellent predictor for men. What is an excellent predictor for what man a woman will date, according to the OKCupid data, is income of the man statistically anchored to the income of the woman. This produce a very similar looking graph to t…

I do not blame women at all for this, totally understandable, but if you are older man without plenty of money, forget it, even if you look OK and are a nice guy, women want the successful man, and why not eh? I'd do the same. Who wants to spend the rest of life scrabbling for money?

Blame should really not enter into the picture. Just because men and women have asymmetrical strategies it don't make one of them more wrong or right. The reason I brought it up is that understanding asymmetrical strategies is key to reach common ground in gender discussion.

Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by SomeStupidPoint »

pngai wrote: post #54
soVeryTired wrote: post #51

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The double negative confuses me. Are they saying young women never do that or they always do it?

I could be confused too, but I would rewrite it as "It is a universal practice for a young woman to fart in her husband's lap."

I think 'experience' might be better than 'practice', in the sense that it's an accidental fart.

Which makes it a strangely comprehensible joke -- "there's never been a wife that didn't fart in her husband's lap", which I can see being said as a teasing, crude joke. (Especially if that "girl's don't fart" thing is an older pseudo-belief than I had thought.)

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Post by cko »

iUsedToCode wrote: post #21

You cannot cheat biology with feminism or education. Some things are impossible to change overnight, regardless of the social pressure or guilt. Men are attracted to fit, young females. Maybe because women in the past tended to pick not the youngest but the most powerful (in this particular social circle?). Thus humans learned that both parties are ok with age difference. It seems a bit gross, a 70yo with a 25yo girl…

I'm looking for the 18-year old girl with a 40-year old mentality. It will never happen.

Re: In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older

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Post by burntrelish1273 »

SomeStupidPoint wrote: post #28
burntrelish1273 wrote: post #19

There's "dating" for sex and dating to get married. People in the former mode are pickier, and the latter are more nuanced. PS: Ben Franklin's advice. Older chicks whom are in-shape are animal, bad bitches in the sack.

Good ol' Ben "In the Dark, All Cats Are Gray" Franklin. Apparently, that phrase actually dates back to at least 1550 -- https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/all_cats_are_grey_in_the_dark Which suddenly has me curious on the history of advice on how to get "bad bitches" -- is there some grand human tradition I've failed to learn the major milestones of? (Like fart jokes which are ~4k years old or advertisements which are ~6…

That's an unscalable, intractable problem unless you go to a certain bar in Los Gatos, CA known as Cougar Central (pun intended). Many of the affluent "bedroom" (pun also intended) communities have bars with bored naughty felines looking to hit it. PUA skills FTW.
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