The day you causally find an old work colleague at the top list of hacker news.
Hi Jochen wink
I deleted my social media accounts
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Re: I deleted my social media accounts
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Let us just say that not all friendships, even the ones that start out strong, end up having the same depth to them because of the loss of shared context (e.g. moving out of the same city for jobs, new responsibilities caused by marriage etc.) In such cases, there's still some reason for the two people involved to at least have a general idea of what's going on in other people's lives, and even reach out should there…
I find it weird that after scrolling through hundreds of messages here nobody mentioned blogs. You would think that this one place where you would specifically find out about huge life events like deaths / births ?!
Most people do not have a unified workflow for reading multiple blogs (RSS etc.) and replying to them, and they also lack the privacy control that is available in social media.
It's a little unreasonable to expect people to put in that effort.
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But it’s also nice to know what’s going on in people’s lives without needing a deep connection...
But why , though? If all you have is a shallow social-media connection with someone, why is it nice to know what's going on in their lives? We have a finite amount of time and energy to maintain connections with people. Even shallow connections eat into that. I'd rather spend that time and energy on deeper connections. And while it's customary to say "but sure, I guess other people have different views on this, so to…
Sometimes, those casual connections can spark something more meaningful down the line or just bring small moments of joy! Like, for instance, seeing an old friend’s travel photos or knowing that you're school friend had a baby
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#494Earlier quoted context omitted.
But why , though? If all you have is a shallow social-media connection with someone, why is it nice to know what's going on in their lives? We have a finite amount of time and energy to maintain connections with people. Even shallow connections eat into that. I'd rather spend that time and energy on deeper connections. And while it's customary to say "but sure, I guess other people have different views on this, so to…
Because sometimes you rekindle relationships that have drifted apart but you still stayed somewhat tethered to thanks to social media. I rekindled a friendship with an old friend when I realized he was visiting the same foreign country as I was. Funny enough his wife is a mutual college friend of ours whom he had lost touch with but only met again after reconnecting on social media. I also reconnected with her throug…
Yep! And those little updates can sometimes lead to unexpected and meaningful reconnections, like your story with your friend and his wife.
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Back in my day, we had to walk fifty miles in the snow, up hill both ways, and we couldn’t afford shoes, just to phone the airline. Back when men were real men, women were real women, and small furry creatures from Alpha Centauri were real small furry creatures from Alpha Centauri.
and you tell young people of today that and they just won't believe you.
Thanks for that, I hadn’t seen it for a couple decades, gave me a good chuckle.
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What has that got to do with social media? Instant messaging and group chat, I’d argue, are distinct services / protocols / products vis-à-vis social media. Strained analogies are weird. I like to call them sieved analogies, the other definition of strained. I strained your analogy and threw out the dross.
If GP has an issue with Zuckerberg => Meta, they might have an issue with WhatsApp too. The "protocols vs platforms" struggle is more relevant than ever. (I am surprised that GP doesn't seem to have heard of Mastodon?)
Approximately no one I’ve ever know in Australia uses WhatsApp, so I generally don’t remember to remember it in these conversations.
I think I once used it to advise someone it’s owned my Facebook and sent them my public key.
Re: I deleted my social media accounts
#497> Mark Zuckerberg recently announced that Meta is ditching its fact-checkers There is a global recession coming, everybody is trimming the fat where possible, all tech industries are cutting where possible. I think it can be reasonably argued that the very nature of fact-checking is a dangerous one anyway - by nature of which facts are used (perspective problem) and what gets checked. > Meta is teaming up with Trump…
> There is a global recession coming, everybody is trimming the fat where possible, all tech industries are cutting where possible. I think it can be reasonably argued that the very nature of fact-checking is a dangerous one anyway - by nature of which facts are used (perspective problem) and what gets checked.
https://companiesmarketcap.com/meta-platforms/operating-marg...
What recession??? We've heard this line for 5+ years now. They're cutting where possible because they can and because the job market is in a dumpster at the moment.
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I love you! This does exactly what I want! It makes FB usable again!
...np, I guess. To be honest, I'm actually disappointed in myself for helping fb retain a user
I mean, without a curating algorithm, facebook is pretty cool. I’ve been one of the earlier users (having had to register my German university e-mail as a student mail to be allowed in), and the only negative parts have ever been Facebook forcing things on me that I don’t want.
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> a call from them um... will someone else tell him/her, or should I?
My partner (who's family is living 10000km away on another side of an ocean) learned her estranged father died a few days ago and that he had been terminally ill for months. Apparently someone from that part of the family had posted it on facebook but she didn't notice it as she do not visit it every day.
People are lazy, and the winning solution (like it or not) is apparently the one that most people default to when they are lazy.
For most people, that is arguably currently Facebook.
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I never called any vegans assholes. Personality quirks are not wrong, they actually make life fun. I guess the thing I’m getting from you is I shouldn’t comment on my own observations because of toupee bias, and I shouldn’t comment on other people’s common observations because they are just memes an not real. Is there an acceptable threshold for situational humor short of a scientific study? If so, what is it?
> I never called any vegans assholes. I know, I didn’t say you did. In my first reply I said: > Some people are assholes and brag about anything And it’s that narrow definition I’ve been using throughout. > I guess the thing I’m getting from you is I shouldn’t comment on my own observations No, of course that’s not it. We can all comment on our own observations, but it’s also important to differentiate from what we e…
It’s cordial here, yes, though some other things happened in my life which I shouldn’t have let intrude into this discussion.
HN in general does not like humorous tones, or at least has a mixed reception, I notice a lot of times where my comments go back and forth between +3/-2. This one probably is a worse one. It’s observational like Seinfeld, but then I don’t really like Seinfeld’s style so I probably shouldn’t have written it in the first place.
That said a well written joke at the right time has gotten me over +50. But as I said I probably shouldn’t have been writing here at all that day, nothing good was going to be posted.