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Read about and in depth how to raise kids. There is a lot of good books how you can let kids become strong individuals instead of good at following instructions. You will never be bored :p
Any advice?
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Read about and in depth how to raise kids. There is a lot of good books how you can let kids become strong individuals instead of good at following instructions. You will never be bored :p
Any advice?
My trip regarding this has been mostly Swedish content. Like this guy: (Grow, not obey) http://www.larshgustafsson.se/?p=1413 I don't see any of this book translated to English though.
He reflects upon his life as a doctor for mostly kids. How interactions with parents work out. How he hates methods and recipies to handle your kids, since that tends to distance yourself from the kid, use your instinct instead.
Another book I was really fascinated by was "Barn som bråkar" (Kids that fight) by Bo Heijskov: https://eng.hejlskov.se/books/ I think most books are a good read there. Mostly about how nothing can be solved by screaming/shouting/distancing. Accept that kids have their own mechanics that you need to appreciate and tend to. Angry kids are good, that means they love you enough to share their emotions. Now it is up to you as a guardian to control the structure around the kid to make it easier to exist and control itself.
Most likely I have missed tons of authors, but I strongly believe that if one follows the pattern of giving love to kids and not shout at them, things will be much easier, for both parent and kids. Reading about it and discussing it with ones partner is something that needs to be tended to all the time.
For me as a bonus dad/bonus grandad and dad I fill a lot of roles, I tend to do deep dives in all areas (tech, music, philosofy etc), reading more about the roles I fill was such a joy and time consuming.
To be fair I started out reading Bo Heilskov and then the site with soundbooks gave me the others.
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#473Competitive gaming is a particularly good example of this. I followed most of the rise of Dota from trashy Warcraft 3 mod to Valve's multi-million-dollar-prize-pool juggernaut. The first few crops of Dota millionaires all had the same backstory: "I played this game 14 hours a day. If there were tournaments at all they didn't really pay anything. My parents said I was wasting my life. I never had a girlfriend. Everyon…
It’s a confirmation bias. I have a similar story. I dropped out of school at 16, and spent 14+ hours a day playing Stepmania Online, which was Dance Dance Revolution for your fingers. I was one of the best in the world! Then everyone stopped playing and nothing came of it. So for every DOTA millionaire or whatnot there’s likely thousands of people who are obsessed with something equally niche who haven’t realized any…
But doesn't your case support the hypothesis that it's interest and luck? You had the former but not the latter, of which the DOTA players did.
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Frankly most people obsess about things like finding a mate, playing video games, collecting comics, politics, reading books, watching & discussing TV shows & movies, social websites (such as this one), sex, porn, fashion, sports, the social politics of work (as opposed to the work itself -- e.g. "The Office") and, of course, their kids. But none of these sorts of obsessions are likely to lead to fame or fortune. I t…
Many of my relatives seem to have no interests or hobbies. I mean sure, they watch TV and movies, but it's not like they are deeply interested in them, they serve more as pastimes. They don't have anything they are actually passionate about.
Most people I meet seem to simply survive on instinct and mimicking others around them.
I find it really refreshing when I discover that someone is passionate about something, no matter what it is.
The possibility exists that I could just be a bad interviewer though.
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Frankly most people obsess about things like finding a mate, playing video games, collecting comics, politics, reading books, watching & discussing TV shows & movies, social websites (such as this one), sex, porn, fashion, sports, the social politics of work (as opposed to the work itself -- e.g. "The Office") and, of course, their kids. But none of these sorts of obsessions are likely to lead to fame or fortune. I t…
You’ve just listed off a dozen obsessive interests, and that’s the problem — you can’t have a dozen obsessive interests, there’s only enough room for one. When I was twenty I could afford an obsessive interest in my studies. Now I’m in my late thirties I simply have too much going on. On the upside, when I’m sixty (which is peak bus ticket collecting age) I can see how I will, finally free of the constraints of work…
From the article, Newton had room for more than one.
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> I agree with his theory, but what I find particularly interesting is that I think most people do not have an obsessive interest in anything at all. I am not convinced that this is true. I think a lot more people are really interested or passionate about something than you may realize, but not all of them talk about those things to everyone. Alternatively, their passion might be what they do for a living. So for ins…
I have a hard time agreeing with this. In my experience people's single most interesting thing to talk about is themselves. Once you notice that, you see it everywhere. It's such a lure, it's almost irresistible. I've made it a habit to ask them a couple of open questions and then just let them have at it. In a few situations folks lost business with me simply because they were too preoccupied with talking about them…
Personally I don't often like to talk about my obsessions with random people.
I find that talking about them usually leads to a predictable surface-level conversation that I'm bound to find boring.
Usually it's only with other experts that I can have an interesting conversation about the details of something I'm very familiar with.
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Something of a political awakening about age 21: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_James_Sidis#Politics_a... Seems to have opted out of society for the most part afterward.
That paragraph in Wikipedia seems to me to subtly imply his parents' attempt at "reforming" him could be relevant here.
A reasonable conclusion. What is perceived as society turning its back on you and betraying you, has a tendency to generate the same in return - especially in people who have a tendency to see more in things than the average person.
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#478Paul Graham is the same blogger who "realized" Microsoft is dead quite a while back. Genius.
The Microsoft he was writing about was the feared monopolist of the 90s. He was right about that and still is.
Did you actually read that article or do you like to yourself to sleep better? "Microsoft is irrelevant".
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#479If anyone wants a beautiful obsession that requires only kindle books and internet searches, allow me to suggest Western Esotericism. It's not what you think. Try to reconstruct the role of Pythagoras on modern society-- and then realize that the first attested hypothesis-driven scientific research question still hasn't been answered. Start with "Western Esotericism: a guide for the perplexed" or the incredible Shwep…
Thanks for the podcast and book suggestion. Diving in now.
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And many parents we know (ourselves included) give up exercise. If at all possible, try to maintain some semblance of an exercise routine.
My twins are 6 months. I've maintained 3x a week, hour long full body training sessions the entire time (and I get out for 2-3 10k runs a week and occasionally get out for a mountain bike ride, depending on how good of a deal I can make with my wife). I'm fortunate to work from home full-time, which means that I can get my workout in over lunch hour. For people who aren't are so fortunate, I always recommend that the…
How do you handle progressive overload? Do you have a bunch of different kettlebells of various weights? Seems like that would defeat the space savings. Or do you cycle out the lower weights or put them in storage once you've progressed past them? Curious to see if I could make this work for me, as I also have time/space constraints.