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Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by gamblor956 »

henrikschroder wrote: post #441
gamblor956 wrote: post #388

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No, because that would require you and your friends to be in each others crush list at the same time . Unless you and your friends only have 9 facebook friends each, you prove nothing with this bizarre hypothetical you've constructed.

People who seriously use this feature will put their secret crushes on the list, and then forget about it. I come along a few months later, and rotate all my friends through this list, and so I discover which of my friends have secret crushes on me, because I'm not using the feature like you're "supposed" to.

It doesn't work that way based on the international betas, but if you want to believe you've hacked Facebook Dating, go ahead and believe that if it will make you feel better.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by LyndsySimon »

CamperBob2 wrote: post #333
LyndsySimon wrote: post #246

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The delicious irony did not escape me: https://www.reddit.com/r/Anarcho_Capitalism/comments/8qur2z/...

It's massively OT for this thread, but it's interesting that you consider anarchy the natural state. Aren't humans absolutely hardwired to form hierarchies and seek leaders? It seems that we're just as compelled to create presidents, kings, and gods for ourselves as pack animals are to follow their alphas. The lone wolf is the vanishingly-rare exception in the animal kingdom, just as the anarchist is in the realm of…

I don't think I disagree with anything you said here, I just sorta see it from a different perspective.

I didn't mean "natural" as "default" or "as found in nature" - I meant it in the sense of a "natural right". Anarchy is the social and political system we start with, and government is a distortion placed upon it. Further, government's nature is to grow in scope and power over time. This growth leads to tyranny, and eventually, to rebellion.

Honestly, I'm not sure that a truly anarchic society is either possible or stable. I see it as an ideal, not something that I think is reasonable to see in my lifetime. To put it another way - I don't want to destroy the government, I want to shrink it to the point that people question the need for it and eventually just decide to stop pretending we have one.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by peterwwillis »

magduf wrote: post #457
peterwwillis wrote: post #456

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Calm down buddy. A lot of people are weirded out when they find out their friends want to screw them. It's a common problem for women that just want platonic friends.

Don't tell me to "calm down"; you sound like a patronizing asshole. You're injecting your prudish religious values here, not me. There's nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to people, and if you only make friends with opposite-sex people you find repulsive, then there's something wrong with you.

I am patronizing you, but I'm not religious or prudish in the least, and I never said that nobody should ever be attracted to their friend; only that they might find it weird. You're not really listening to what I'm saying, though, you're just being defensive at the idea that your affections for your friends might be regarded badly. You can feel however you want about others, but don't expect them to be super flattered that you want to have sex with them. (Ok, you can expect whatever you want, but reality might be a different story)

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by magduf »

peterwwillis wrote: post #463
magduf wrote: post #457

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Don't tell me to "calm down"; you sound like a patronizing asshole. You're injecting your prudish religious values here, not me. There's nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to people, and if you only make friends with opposite-sex people you find repulsive, then there's something wrong with you.

I am patronizing you, but I'm not religious or prudish in the least, and I never said that nobody should ever be attracted to their friend; only that they might find it weird . You're not really listening to what I'm saying, though, you're just being defensive at the idea that your affections for your friends might be regarded badly. You can feel however you want about others, but don't expect them to be super flatte…

>but don't expect them to be super flattered that you want to have sex with them.

Why the hell do you think I made the suggestion in the first place? Of course I realize this.

>and I never said that nobody should ever be attracted to their friend; only that they might find it weird.

Wrong. You called me out as some kind of freak for being attracted to friends. Go read your own writings above. The whole reason I made the suggestion is because of course I realize some would find it weird (or more accurately, uncomfortable) if their friend voiced their attraction out loud, so a 2-way match app would solve this problem without anyone being made to feel uncomfortable or anyone missing out on an opportunity because of being afraid of making their friends uncomfortable. You're the one who said this was morally wrong and that people should just tell their friends this and ruin their friendships.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by benguild »

estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

It makes sense. A lot of people only grant API access to dating apps and this would increase their app installs at a time of decline.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by technofiend »

scarface74 wrote: post #276
steve_gh wrote: post #145

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Like the BBC? https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-49594264

Facebook has had plenty of data breaches and in the aggregate no one cared enough to delete their account.

>no one cares enough to delete their account.

That's demonstrably untrue: there are articles at the top of Google results about this very subject including a guide on how to do it on The New York Times that references the breaches.

https://www.narcity.com/news/canadians-are-deleting-their-fa...

Anecdotally I deleted mine over privacy concerns but it was prior to the breaches. My wife didn't like the fact that friends of friends could see photos of her. She didn't know those people and didn't like it. I was more exasperated by Facebook tweaking privacy knobs through updates and was always to share more not less.

So I deleted my account since I couldn't promise that even if I choose privacy settings today that protected her privacy they'd be there tomorrow. Ironically she's still a Facebook customer and has no clue how to change privacy settings, but that's between her and Facebook.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by peterwwillis »

magduf wrote: post #464
peterwwillis wrote: post #463

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I am patronizing you, but I'm not religious or prudish in the least, and I never said that nobody should ever be attracted to their friend; only that they might find it weird . You're not really listening to what I'm saying, though, you're just being defensive at the idea that your affections for your friends might be regarded badly. You can feel however you want about others, but don't expect them to be super flatte…

>but don't expect them to be super flattered that you want to have sex with them. Why the hell do you think I made the suggestion in the first place? Of course I realize this. >and I never said that nobody should ever be attracted to their friend; only that they might find it weird. Wrong. You called me out as some kind of freak for being attracted to friends. Go read your own writings above. The whole reason I made…

I did say people should tell their friends, because I find being honest and straightforward to be more virtuous (and realistic) than being secretive. But I never called you a freak, and I certainly never said it was immoral to be attracted to friends. If I thought those things I would just say so.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by jonnycomputer »

jonnycomputer wrote: post #112
galfarragem wrote: post #88

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> Just because I go out on a date with someone doesn't mean I want to be friends with them on Facebook. That's true for casual dating. By the other hand on older demographics, I think they nailed it: I suspect among older people, casual dating is less relevant, so they are not afraid of adding eachother as friends. And they don't need to install anything else..

The ad's photograph isn't targeted at older people.

why would you target a dying demographic? facebook users of my generation started FB in college, and have stuck on. targeting younger people is FB is smart, unless it wants to be come the next AOL.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by jrnichols »

basch wrote: post #266
jrnichols wrote: post #73

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i agree with that. it almost seems like they're throwing their weight into an already way overcrowded market. but it's still too early to tell - how is Facebook Marketplace doing against 5mile/LetItGo/etc? Facebook's massive user base might make this a success. Depending on whether or not there's a fee involved.

Is it that overcrowded? IAC and Spark own basically everything. Its like Ford and Chevy having 20 subbrands, but no one else makes cars.

when things devolve into such specific niches as "farmersonly" and 'blackpeoplemeet" and stuff like that, I figure that it's overcrowded. The iTunes App Store alone has at least a dozen. Many of them non-IAC too. It's a lot.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by romanhn »

bitbuilder wrote: post #101
taude wrote: post #77

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I didn't think young people used the Facebook brand anymore? If all the stories that have been published about that are to be believed.

I have plenty of people in my extended friend group who are in their mid to late 20s, and most of them are still quite active on FB. Nobody thinks it's cool or fun anymore, of course. But it's still the go-to spot for sharing life events, family news, anything you want to brag about really. Or any vacation pictures that you'd like grandma and grandpa to see. IG is still image driven, so it's not a platform you can ea…

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