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Re: Never waste a midlife crisis

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You're not dull. Creativity is a loaded word. To me creativity is a state of play. Have you ever played as a child? Chance are you did. Are you able to do stuff you enjoy without anyone forcing you to? That's creativity. My creativity is computer science related. For others it's painting, poetry, dancing or being a top fragger at Counter Strike. Just find out what is fun for you and maximize it. That's innate, and we…

Your words about play, creativity and fun, and the maximization thereof, bring to mind a gem of an essay from Bob Black that I first encountered back in the days when 640K was enough for anyone. Dinosaur days. It's called "The Abolition of Work" and I've always assumed that most nerds like me had probably read it but maybe not. It made a big, and lasting impression on me, and I suspect that many here who feel drawn t…

Thanks for the recommendation, especially these days that I'm really deep into Anarchist literature :)

Also Brian Eno, urging people not to get a job: https://youtu.be/d-53tzx69fM

Re: Never waste a midlife crisis

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It's not!! We were told as kids that prophets in general became prophets at that age around 40!! It's the case for Mohammed at least and if your read up on his life around that age, you can easily imagine he was going through a mid-life crisis!!

One can imagine anything, including unrealistic and baseless things. Reality, however, is different. This is evident by the many people who carefully studied his biography and ended up embracing Islam (some of them being heavily anti-Islam themselves before that).

A mid-life crisis is not necessarily a bad thing!! It's probably one of the most important spiritual experiences a person can have. We are told that Mohammed used to spend long times in the Hiraa cave kinda meditating or thinking about things that are not part of ordinary life.. Somebody with midlife crisis is one who has questions and searching for answers! They are asking: "Who am I? What am I doing in this world!?"

Re: Never waste a midlife crisis

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Another way to look at it is that this isn't "people's failings." This is structural. Churches perpetuate problematic power structures and base their teachings on incoherent writings that can easily be interpreted to mean all kinds of nasty things. You can point to Jesus sayings in "true Christianity" and still have to explain yourself as to why Apostle Paul is allowed to say some crazy stuff in the same compilation…

Thanks for reply :) By "challenge people" - I mean, rather than put up with BS, relentlessly challenge it, call it out . One might attack homophobia like this: "You believe in a loving God? OK. Does a loving God smite down someone who finds themselves to be gay, or does God celebrate all committed loving relationships including ones that happen to be of the same gender". OK, I'm very liberal on this, and some Christi…

Dude if your religion needs 2000 years of theologians to interpret correctly, all the while being a pretext for war, genocide, racism, sexism, and an accidental source of child abuse, your religion sucks and the world would be better off without it.

You don't need "better Christians" -- you need people to stop being Christians.

> Also there's a lot of confusion and misunderstanding about what teachings are, what Jesus really said, a misunderstanding that God is somehow punitive or vengeful which Jesus tried to clear up but we still seem to fall victim to.

That your religion is this incoherent is itself a huge problem and the source of many ills.

> I agree with you about churches perpetuating problematic power structures, clericalism and so forth.. But that in itself is people's failings isn't it? Doesn't mean that all or even many Christians are supportive of that.

You're saying blame the priest who diddled kids, not the church that teaches priests to repress their natural urges until they manifest in taking advantage of defenseless children. You're saying blame the idiots who "misinterpreted" the Bible and created churches where women cannot lead, and not the texts that provide the argument for their behavior. That's not agreeing with me on problematic power structures, that's failing to see problematic power structures.

> Treatment of women - often women are not treated well , whether in the church or not. Shouldn't be happening.. but again human failings rather than something fundamental about religion or church per se, IMHO.

Except that the basis for western oppression for women is largely rooted in Judeo-Christian beliefs. And in the middle east, Islam is the source.

It's all garbage.

Re: Never waste a midlife crisis

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Looks like my hypothesis is supported by the evidence: On page 4, you can see their regression results. In fact, they don't estimate the statistical significance of any occupation as a factor, not even the law enforcement occupation that they focused on. The "media and communications equipment workers" category had a reported 0.00% divorce rate! It seems implausible that we should infer causality from this.

There are a few other studies on this. Maybe I'm reading these incorrectly so would appreciate your analysis. As far as I can interpret, the pattern is legit. What is especially counter-intuitive (unless you have a negative view of the profession, as I do) is that so-called professionals in mental health have a higher divorce rate even than respondents who score high on the "anger scale". So what's that all about? Di…

Did you accidentally paste the same link twice?

Looking at the "Medical Specialty and the Incidence of Divorce" article, my first thought on reading "Scores on these [psychological characteristic] scales were grouped according to quartiles for analysis" is that the researchers aren't experts in statistical methods, or else are hiding something by bucketing arbitrarily. It's a widespread problem in life sciences. They don't explain (not by this point in the article, at least) why they chose quartiles. I'm skeptical of any analysis that reduces the fidelity of the data without explanation. It smells like p-hacking.

My second thought regarding their model is wondering why they didn't first build a model predicting divorce for the general population. I've heard (received wisdom) that financial stress is the primary cause. It seems unlikely that medical specialty is unrelated to household finances. Ignoring a likely confounding variable is sloppy. It makes the effort seem like a novelty article intended for amusement rather than serious research. It's in the "occasional notes" section of the periodical, which suggests less rigor.

They do little to address the question of causality. They muse that, "One explanation is the longer work hours required in some specialties," but never bothered to analyze the hours worked.

My conclusion: That article is literally a joke, published to give the community something to laugh about over beers after the conference.

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If I were to perform the analysis, I'd first build a model of causes of divorce for the general population. Some candidate variables: household income, household income as a ratio to each person's childhood household income, cost of living where the household lives, frequency of attending religious services, number of children, number of hours worked per week, age when married, etc.

I'm skeptical of psychological characteristic surveys, so I'd spend some time considering alternatives, but I'd want to include some measure of characteristics that might drive the choice of a medical specialty which might also be correlated with divorce. We want to isolate the choice of specialty as the cause as separate from confounders that cause both the choice and divorce.

If medical specialty holds up as a factor after controlling for everything else, then I'd investigate further.

Re: Never waste a midlife crisis

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There are a few other studies on this. Maybe I'm reading these incorrectly so would appreciate your analysis. As far as I can interpret, the pattern is legit. What is especially counter-intuitive (unless you have a negative view of the profession, as I do) is that so-called professionals in mental health have a higher divorce rate even than respondents who score high on the "anger scale". So what's that all about? Di…

Did you accidentally paste the same link twice? Looking at the "Medical Specialty and the Incidence of Divorce" article, my first thought on reading "Scores on these [psychological characteristic] scales were grouped according to quartiles for analysis" is that the researchers aren't experts in statistical methods, or else are hiding something by bucketing arbitrarily. It's a widespread problem in life sciences. They…

https://sci-hub.st/https://doi.org/10.1136/bmj.h706 for the other study

Re: Never waste a midlife crisis

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Did you accidentally paste the same link twice? Looking at the "Medical Specialty and the Incidence of Divorce" article, my first thought on reading "Scores on these [psychological characteristic] scales were grouped according to quartiles for analysis" is that the researchers aren't experts in statistical methods, or else are hiding something by bucketing arbitrarily. It's a widespread problem in life sciences. They…

https://sci-hub.st/https://doi.org/10.1136/bmj.h706 for the other study

Thanks. My first reaction is that this one is much better. Larger sample, better methods.

Again, I hate the arbitrary bucketing. There's no benefit to creating age buckets, as if there's some magical change that happens at 40, 50, and 60. I did have an atypically large birthday party, compared to other years, but I don't think that had a dramatic effect on my likelihood to divorce. Maybe some people have such spectacularly intense decade-related birthday parties that it increases divorce incidence for those years? Income doesn't benefit from bucketing, either. Having $199k annual income isn't much different from $201k annual income.

They do a decent job of controlling for confounders. Considering, among other things, that "if the annual rate of divorce was identical across occupations but physicians marry later in life, then at any given time physicians would be less likely to report ever having divorced compared with people in other occupations, simply because they were at risk for less time."

However, their inclusions of state and year fixed effects could have been more considered. These are proxies for other things, like cultural characteristics and neighborhood income levels. I'd like to see some discussion of why they chose to use state and year proxies instead of searching for more specific explanatory variables. Especially state, because some kind of urbanization measure might be more helpful. However, because state medical licensing regulation might affect the choice of occupation, the use of that variable is easily defensible.

Ugh! Bucketing again! Hours worked should be a continuous variable. Inexcusable, unless they feared misreporting. Perhaps they saw some banding at 40, 45, and 50 hours, so they figured it's not really a continuous variable anyway. Again, that needs explanation. Any rationale for bucketing should be thoroughly discussed.

Finally, the effects. First, with this population size, I'd be surprised if these weren't "statistically significant". I'm looking more for practical significance. Check out the estimates for dentists. Dentists appear to have lower incidence of divorce, based on the last year, yet higher prevalence of divorce. Strange. That means that dentists in past years had a higher annual incidence, but the rate has been declining, or declining relative to physicians. Has the practice of dentistry, relative to general medicine, changed that much over those years? This suggests spurious results, at least for the physician vs dentist comparison.

Hispanics were more likely to divorce? Bogus. I'll chalk it up to sampling weirdness. The CI includes 1 anyway, so they're saying it doesn't matter. They should put some asterisks in to highlight the variables we should pay attention to. It looks like they're including Black and Hispanic just to explain what Other means, because Other is the only significant one.

Wow! Income is irrelevant. Weird again. Maybe bucketing at work, turning 1 continuous variable into 4 binary variables, diluting the impact. It should have been log(dollars).

If you work more than 60 hours, you're more likely to get divorced. Makes sense. Again, log(hours) would have been better, though maybe a threshold at 40 hours would have been useful.

I enjoyed the article, but if I were the journal editor, I'd have returned it with some suggestions for improvement rather than publishing it.

Anyway, I hope my commentary was interesting/useful. This article doesn't say anything about psychology, so we've gone off on a bit of a tangent.

Re: Never waste a midlife crisis

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https://sci-hub.st/https://doi.org/10.1136/bmj.h706 for the other study

Thanks. My first reaction is that this one is much better. Larger sample, better methods. Again, I hate the arbitrary bucketing. There's no benefit to creating age buckets, as if there's some magical change that happens at 40, 50, and 60. I did have an atypically large birthday party, compared to other years, but I don't think that had a dramatic effect on my likelihood to divorce. Maybe some people have such spectac…

Yes, very interesting, thank you for putting in the time. I appreciate the detailed analysis. Were you able to make any inference at all about psychiatry and divorce from these data or no? It's interesting that you are using some background knowledge to evaluate the findings (e.g., hispanic divorce). I'm curious where that comes from and how it fits into our discussion. Is it that you have data about hispanic background divorce rates or is it because you know hispanics are largely Catholic and making a logical inference? As far as dentistry is concerned, it may be a hidden variable, such as makeup of those practicing dentistry. Maybe a change in composition of male/female overall. Or from different cultural or ethnic backgrounds with different background rates of divorce. My overall impression of your analytical tools is that you are willing to hypothesize causes with the caveat that they be subject to further investigation. If you reach such places in analysis and stop, do you just reserve judgment from that point? I would think not. Rather, your priors change and your probabilities change so you can go about life without perfectly constructed and complete statistical evidence, as all of us must.

To return to the topic under discussion, it sounds like you are saying, "there may or may not be a correlation between psychiatry and divorce, but these particular studies can't provide the answer." I assure you I am not basing my opinions about psychiatrists on these studies. Rather, I expect that properly constructed studies that meet your standards would bear out what I know from my own experience and encounters with people in the profession. Others in the thread provided anecdotal data that supports my own. And, I'm not making my judgment based solely on experience. My experience confirms an intellectual analysis based on the history of the profession. Those are my priors and probabilities. I would not be surprised if the data backed me up but I would be surprised if the data refuted my suppositions (and would question the study). It seems that my sort of reasoning doesn't have much place in your toolbox. Is that not the case?

I appreciate your reply and explanation. However, I think we'll probably be speaking at cross-purposes because your description of the kind of variables you would choose for your own model strike me as (necessarily) limited and reflective of the data requirements of your preferred methods (McNamara fallacy?). (I don't actually believe you live your life via models generally, but maybe you do.)

My opinion is there is no room in such models for all the many things that are part of the rich fabric of psychological experience, without which all you get is a kind of significant/not-significant binary according to available imperfect data. I mean, yes, it preserves the null hypothesis, but it feels sterile to me to attribute so much to randomness when the model itself is so obviously curated to work with available data. Or even to hidden variables that will require further study, at some point, in the future, maybe... Not to mention the cases where the null hypothesis was subsequently rejected (smoking, ulcers,...). Yes, Maybe you believe these variables are the principal components of the theoretical complete data? The don't appear orthogonal to me.

Meanwhile, life has to be lived and if you've encountered "types" of people in the world but won't allow yourself to acknowledge their existence unless one can build a rigorous predictive model to verify the existence of those types and to be sure they are not noise or sample bias or whatever, then you are enjoying a life that I would find almost barren. There are so many locked doors in this way of seeing the world. You have problems with datasets, which you have to decide whether to trust. Will you apply statistics or heuristics to those problems? Absent trustworthy data will you just decide to defer judgment? It's a form of not trusting oneself as well, which I reject on principle, and of making oneself unbiased to the point of being inconsequential. In other words, a form of nihilism (perhaps nullism is the appropriate term).

Re: Never waste a midlife crisis

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post #457
post #456

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Thanks. My first reaction is that this one is much better. Larger sample, better methods. Again, I hate the arbitrary bucketing. There's no benefit to creating age buckets, as if there's some magical change that happens at 40, 50, and 60. I did have an atypically large birthday party, compared to other years, but I don't think that had a dramatic effect on my likelihood to divorce. Maybe some people have such spectac…

Yes, very interesting, thank you for putting in the time. I appreciate the detailed analysis. Were you able to make any inference at all about psychiatry and divorce from these data or no? It's interesting that you are using some background knowledge to evaluate the findings (e.g., hispanic divorce). I'm curious where that comes from and how it fits into our discussion. Is it that you have data about hispanic backgro…

No, I don't think I can make any inferences about psychiatry from those articles. My Bayesian update is the opposite of yours: because the evidence presented was weak, I'm more skeptical of any relationship between psychiatry and divorce. I was quite ready to believe it, and was disappointed to see such weak studies. It suggests to me that it's difficult to find positive results with stronger analysis.

You seem to be suggesting I'm philosophically a Frequentist. Somewhat true, but I am, like basically everyone, a Bayesian when it comes to practical decisions. Also, I have no fear of logical deduction when statistical inference is infeasible.

Nullism is a good term. I'm of the opinion that most things are random and that humans' imaginations frequently mislead us. Absent better evidence, I'm unlikely to believe any link between psychiatry and divorce.

Re: Never waste a midlife crisis

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One can imagine anything, including unrealistic and baseless things. Reality, however, is different. This is evident by the many people who carefully studied his biography and ended up embracing Islam (some of them being heavily anti-Islam themselves before that).

A mid-life crisis is not necessarily a bad thing!! It's probably one of the most important spiritual experiences a person can have. We are told that Mohammed used to spend long times in the Hiraa cave kinda meditating or thinking about things that are not part of ordinary life.. Somebody with midlife crisis is one who has questions and searching for answers! They are asking: "Who am I? What am I doing in this world!?…

Contemplating in God's creations is not a midlife crisis, but a spiritual endeavor.

Re: Never waste a midlife crisis

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Thanks for reply :) By "challenge people" - I mean, rather than put up with BS, relentlessly challenge it, call it out . One might attack homophobia like this: "You believe in a loving God? OK. Does a loving God smite down someone who finds themselves to be gay, or does God celebrate all committed loving relationships including ones that happen to be of the same gender". OK, I'm very liberal on this, and some Christi…

Dude if your religion needs 2000 years of theologians to interpret correctly, all the while being a pretext for war, genocide, racism, sexism, and an accidental source of child abuse, your religion sucks and the world would be better off without it. You don't need "better Christians" -- you need people to stop being Christians. > Also there's a lot of confusion and misunderstanding about what teachings are, what Jesu…

Someone downvoted you but it wasn't me. We possibly shouldn't carry this on too long in case people feel its gone way off topic, but.. these are important subjects. To address some of your points :). "if your religion needs 200 yr of theologians" ... its not the religion, its the Bible. Big difference. Its hardly surprising if a book written 2000 yrs ago, totally different time, culture etc, needs expertise to be understood , and going to it directly and trying to make sense of it cause confusion, right? Pretext for genocide etc... well, terrible things have been done in the name of religion, but terrible things happen with or without religion. Look at Russia/Ukraine. I'd argue its not religion causing it. People that want to hate will find something to fight about be it religion, resources, power, football teams etc. I do agree actually that where people's beliefs are incoherent this is the source of many ills. But I'd argue against that being the fundamental religion being incoherent. Regarding abuse by clerics, I do agree, and I think a lot of Christians would, that the rule of celibacy for priests is extremely unhelpful, and has led as you say, to deviant behaviour and abuse that has wrecked people's lives. The response by church(es) has been severely lacking, often appalling, and the main reason for that would seem to be that the hierarchy themselves are celibate, not having normal healthy relationships and haven't a clue how what to do. So I, like many others would advocate ditch the celibacy requirement ASAP. The hierarchy don't necessarily think they can do that though, they think they'll alienate churches in the developing world, cause a schism etc, its a mess. But, and you may think I'm an idiot to say this, I argue again, that's human failings, and doesn't mean that the religion should be thrown away as unworkable. I would believe, that's not what Jesus would have wanted. Now, maybe you don't believe, and that's absolutely fine. No-one should ever be pressured into having any beliefs or religion (yet another thing unhelpful people have done within the church, and again, nevertheless not a reason to disband it IMHO). But I would say, maybe stay away from the church if you don't believe, but if you have any hint of belief, try to fix these problems. By, like I say, challenging people. Regarding Judaism, Christianity and Islam being the source of oppression of women, that's certainly an interesting one, I'd have to go away and think about that. Gut feeling , its unlikely to be the only source of that, but I know what you're saying there's certainly been structural oppression of women within organised religion. To summarise I think a lot of things that anger you about the church its absolutely fair to be furious about, and these issues massively frustrate people inside it who still regularly go to church. Where we differ is indeed that you say people should stop being Christians whereas I do indeed say people should be better Christians. Hope you can find happiness and purpose anyway whatever route you take. :)
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