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Re: Facebook Dating

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Not only that, but as much as I like to bad-mount FB, I will say that when I post stuff on FB Marketplace to sell, I never get people saying they want to buy it from me with a cashier's check. There are a lot of flakes, however, but that's the case with CL as well, but I've never run across a scammer, whereas on CL I get scammers all the time with the stupid cashier's check scam.

This is totally regional and item category specific. Anything primarily bought sold by the people that write "I check email once a week and don't text so call me" in their CL ads is not going to be on marketplace.

I don't follow. I can post the exact same listing on FBM and CL, and with CL I get bombarded with scammers, and with FBM I never do. In fact, with FB, I'm not sure how you would ever get contacted by scammers at all, since it's tied to your FB account, so someone would have to go to the trouble of maintaining a fake FB account just for this purpose, and it would presumably be quickly flagged and disabled as soon as a couple people got obvious scam communications from it. For better or worse, the "real person" feature about FB and lack of privacy, actually seems to work in its favor here. Anyone with a phone (or who can spoof a phone number in your area code from Nigeria) can contact you on a CL listing, whereas with FB the bar is much, much higher and there's a lot more policing.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Switching sims doesnt log me out of whatsapp either - as far as i can tell its totally optional whether i want to update my whatsapp number to my phone number or not.

Yes it’s true that switching sims doesn’t log you out, but if you decided to intentionally log out from account A and create a new account B, you would need a second SIM card, that’s what the parent comment was trying to explain.

Makes sense.

Re: Facebook Dating

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They did it with marketplace and took a very significant bite out of places like craigslist. I’m sure they can do the same for dating.

It seems super broken (search??), but somehow people use it in droves.

I've noticed search is totally broken in the mobile browser, but works pretty well on the desktop & phone apps.

I bet few Facebookers don't have the app installed.

Re: Facebook Dating

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What individual SV tech workers want, and what SV CEOs and VC pursue, are two wildly different things. Using SV as a synecdoche for "movers and shakers in the information technology / adtech worlds", the statement stands.

Not sure if the point you're trying to make. The parent called it a "cultural thing unique Silicon Valley", which to me implied that it's pervasive in people's thinking. But it's not. The fact that some few CEOs seem to think that way does not make it a "cultural thing" by any stretch of the imagination. It's a scheme to make money and gain market share, not commentary on social values.

That the interest in a single unified online identity is not merely exceptional in its association with Silicon Valley, but a specific subset of the Valley: power-brokers and corporate heads.

There are of course exceptions -- rank-and-file tech workers who have drunk the cool aid, and some outside tech who think this is a Good Thing (often for Others but not Themselves).

Ascribing the fixation to SV is, again, generally accurate.

Re: Facebook Dating

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post #450

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So just straight up ask the person "Have you ever thought about us hooking up?". If they don't want it, they'll just decline, and you can both get over it. Or they'll think you're a creep, and you won't be friends anymore, which is probably for the best seeing as you were harboring secret desires for this person. Either way, being up-front and honest will have a better result than letting Facebook connect you because…

>Because what people have been clamoring for is to know which of their friends like them more than is mutual, so they can feel weird. How the hell is this something despicable and wrong in your eyes? Honestly, you sound like you have some kind of psychological problem if you think it's wrong to be attracted to a friend.

Calm down buddy. A lot of people are weirded out when they find out their friends want to screw them. It's a common problem for women that just want platonic friends.

Re: Facebook Dating

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post #450

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>Because what people have been clamoring for is to know which of their friends like them more than is mutual, so they can feel weird. How the hell is this something despicable and wrong in your eyes? Honestly, you sound like you have some kind of psychological problem if you think it's wrong to be attracted to a friend.

Calm down buddy. A lot of people are weirded out when they find out their friends want to screw them. It's a common problem for women that just want platonic friends.

Don't tell me to "calm down"; you sound like a patronizing asshole. You're injecting your prudish religious values here, not me. There's nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to people, and if you only make friends with opposite-sex people you find repulsive, then there's something wrong with you.

Re: Facebook Dating

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There's no way Facebook would allow someone to use Facebook Dating while their relationship status is set to "married" or "in a relationship." That leaves only alternate accounts as an option for someone using their dating to cheat, but I dont think Facebook has much of an alternate account culture. Unless someone has an account for personal use and an account for "work" use that they cheat with? And their work frien…

I look forward to seeing if your first statement is true.

Seems like it was false! You can use this while married on Facebook

Re: Facebook Dating

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post #359

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2FA by phone should be dead. SMS is insecure and I've deprecated it for all forms of communication with me. I use virtual numbers for all websites and banks that have stupid forced phone 2FA, including Facebook.

Sounds like a good idea. Virtual numbers from where?

Twilio is a good place to start and has a pretty feature-complete API. There are other alternatives as well.

Do note that some services aren't able to send SMS to virtual numbers in the US, for some reason. If that happens, try again with a virtual number in the UK or somewhere else, or if there is a voice call confirmation option that may also work for you as you can redirect the call programatically. Considering the phone numbers typically cost only $1/month each you can keep a few around to deal with this situation.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Reminds me of the people who pay extra to the state to have the Gadsden flag license plate.

They love those in Virginia

Ha! Funnily enough, I lived there for five years. My Arkansas "ANARCHY" plate replaced my Virginai "4NO GOV" plate: https://www.reddit.com/r/Anarcho_Capitalism/comments/279byb/...
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