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Post by Mashimo »

0xEF wrote: post #433
Mashimo wrote: post #368

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> but it was a laughable effort by today's standards of maximum self-aggrandizing and competitive social engagement. What does this mean? > The idea that we need to be sharing every aspect of our personal narrative with the world is problematic I know about one or two people who does this. And it's far away from an obituary. I'm not quite sure I get what you a saying. I just meant in my upbringing it was quite normal…

> What does this mean? Apologies if my wording was too vague. I am using 'Self-aggrandizing' to mean a high exhibition of self-importance, or to put it another way, advertising one's self in a way that makes minor events or details seem bigger than they are. I am using 'competitive social engagement' as an alternative phrase to "Keeping up with the Joneses" which illustrates comparing yourself to your neighbors in te…

Ah, yeah no problem :D

I also had no social media in my upbringing, a bit of ICQ via dial up though. Got an Facebook account and smartphone way later compared to my peers.

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Post by angoragoats »

throwaway290 wrote: post #223
angoragoats wrote: post #169

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It must have changed between when you worked there and now, because I just checked and I can't sign up with my old handle (despite it returning a "this account doesn't exist" error when attempting to view it).

As of 2023 the model was to allow taking a handle even if it already exists but did not post for a while: https://www.businessinsider.com/elon-musk-x-twitter-inactive... So it seems unlikely they would keep deleted handles forever. I bet they become part of this marketplace program a la "premium domains".

I can’t find any evidence that the plan outlined in that article was actually launched. The owner of Twitter says a lot of stuff, but most of it is made up.

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Post by aembleton »

parsimo2010 wrote: post #64
nindalf wrote: post #38

This advice to quit social media is always a hit on HN. When I was 10 years younger I read the same thing on HN, was thoroughly convinced and quit social media. I even followed the advice of trying to stay in touch by email. Sure. Turns out that a lot of people I knew posted huge life updates that I completely missed out on. I asked them why they didn’t tell me and they were confused. They said the posted it on socia…

The messages about going cold turkey are popular, but you do miss out on a lot. I deleted all my social media in 2015, and didn’t mind too much, but years later when I met my wife (and there was more pressure to be social) I made accounts again so people could message me and I’ve been able to hold back from spending all my time doomscrolling. I think the social part of social media can be good for us, and we have to…

FB Purity plugin helps. It removes all the suggested posts, advert and other junk. Unfortunately, it only works on desktop: https://www.fbpurity.com/

I can scroll through Facebook now on my laptop, and it means I stop doing so on my phone. I have the phone app just to post updates or to quickly check the location of an event or something.

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Post by geraldhh »

amelius wrote: post #439
bflesch wrote: post #2

I wouldn't delete social media accounts because they might become available to register for malicious actors who can then impersonate you. Keep the accounts, just don't use them any more.

Also: TSA officer: "please log in to your social media account" You: "I have no social media" TSA officer: "step out of the line please"

surely annoying, probably illegal

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Post by MinimalAction »

wruza wrote: post #29

I'm just not reading any of it - not interested. SM addiction is so 2015. I have technical accounts to be able to search for something (e.g. while training loras) or to watch without annoying popups when someone links me to it. This dramatic deletion is overreaction, solve the underlying problem instead. Rather than scrolling instagram and tiktok, visit /news and /newest, and then /ask, /show. If nothing interesting…

While I agree that HN usually gathers much interesting content, I don't understand why getting more karma on HN matters anyway. Chasing points anywhere isn't healthy by the way. Say something interesting because it is interesting and sparks a conversation and not for the sake of saying something.

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Post by jacooper »

nindalf wrote: post #38

This advice to quit social media is always a hit on HN. When I was 10 years younger I read the same thing on HN, was thoroughly convinced and quit social media. I even followed the advice of trying to stay in touch by email. Sure. Turns out that a lot of people I knew posted huge life updates that I completely missed out on. I asked them why they didn’t tell me and they were confused. They said the posted it on socia…

I agree completely, I did the same thing and now I've been going back gradually. Staying in contact passively makes starting conversations much easier, commenting on their stories, them reacting to a big event, etc. It keeps people in contact, because nobody reaches out of the blue now.

Losing such a network of people is costly, socially and from an opportunity perspective.

Still trying to not click anything not related to people I follow, the algorithms on meta apps are just insane.

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Post by bluGill »

johnnyanmac wrote: post #183
bluGill wrote: post #126

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Problem is facebook decides what you want to see unless you go to the feed which they make hard. Even then the vast majoritiy of what you see is garbage they share instead of life updates that you want. I wish there was a better way but life updates still a posted there only. Facebook is the only one that has a concept of this is a for my friends only.

Yeah, I couldn't put it into words on why "Facebook got worse over the years". But that was definitely one of the keys shifts (outside of my friends leaving). I was getting less updates from people I know and more "news that will make you angry " kind of stuff. I probably really "left" around 2017. But 2020 is when I finally got around to freezing the account.

Realistically everything my several hundred friends have to share with me takes maybe 5 minutes a day to go through (close friends of course would call about things that are too personal for facebook so this is about things more distance friends would care about) . There is a lot more money in the handful of people who are scrolling through, finding, and sharing various memes and news that will make you angry (though this is fun if you - like most people - have friends on both the right and the left doing this and so you can see the bias each side is taking) than there is in friends sharing their life which is not lived on facebook (unless your a physically disabled and so you can only live vicariously through others)

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Post by brightball »

Semaphor wrote: post #248
brightball wrote: post #227

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I just started aggressively unfollowing and hiding stuff I really didn’t want to see. I used to hate the idea of doing that, but I realized if not doing it was making me want to cut off everybody then I was probably better off just filtering aggressively. Now my feed is very pleasant. Family updates, sports news, friends vacation pictures and jokes.

I only follow stuff I want to see. But facebook shows me a ton of other things. Reels every few posts are usually sexily dressed Asian women, or more normally dressed White women, with some kind of clickbait text overlaid. I think I maybe clicked on a reel once or twice ever. Then my feed is full of suggested content. Which I also don’t want to see. From metal bands I don’t care about and festivals I don’t wanna go t…

The Reels, I'm with you on.

It does seem to keep showing you more of what you click on though, so I hit a good trend of funny clips from Modern Family, How I Met Your Mother, Friends and random interesting nature videos and for the most part those dominate now.

But no matter what you click on it seems like they are really determined to keep throwing in the various ladies clips.

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Post by fsflover »

MinimalAction wrote: post #445
wruza wrote: post #29

I'm just not reading any of it - not interested. SM addiction is so 2015. I have technical accounts to be able to search for something (e.g. while training loras) or to watch without annoying popups when someone links me to it. This dramatic deletion is overreaction, solve the underlying problem instead. Rather than scrolling instagram and tiktok, visit /news and /newest, and then /ask, /show. If nothing interesting…

While I agree that HN usually gathers much interesting content, I don't understand why getting more karma on HN matters anyway. Chasing points anywhere isn't healthy by the way. Say something interesting because it is interesting and sparks a conversation and not for the sake of saying something.

The OP is surely joking. Less than 10k karma since 2015 isn't a serious karma race ;)

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Post by fsflover »

insane_dreamer wrote: post #142
wruza wrote: post #29

I'm just not reading any of it - not interested. SM addiction is so 2015. I have technical accounts to be able to search for something (e.g. while training loras) or to watch without annoying popups when someone links me to it. This dramatic deletion is overreaction, solve the underlying problem instead. Rather than scrolling instagram and tiktok, visit /news and /newest, and then /ask, /show. If nothing interesting…

> SM addiction is so 2015 it's more prevalent today than it was then, so no. > solve the underlying problem instead that would be to get rid of FB, X etc. altogether; but since we can't do that, we can do the things that we have control over, i.e., our own accounts

We can move to Mastodon and attract some friends with good posts.
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