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Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by henrikschroder »

gamblor956 wrote: post #388
henrikschroder wrote: post #334

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Ok, so then you rotate that list through your friends. They might make it tedious to go through all my friends, but if I'm determined enough, I can do it.

No, because that would require you and your friends to be in each others crush list at the same time . Unless you and your friends only have 9 facebook friends each, you prove nothing with this bizarre hypothetical you've constructed.

People who seriously use this feature will put their secret crushes on the list, and then forget about it.

I come along a few months later, and rotate all my friends through this list, and so I discover which of my friends have secret crushes on me, because I'm not using the feature like you're "supposed" to.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by martin_a »

djohnston wrote: post #152
martin_a wrote: post #55

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Seriously? From what I see in the German version of Facebook, Marketplace is nowhere near "eBay Kleinanzeigen" which is by far the most popular website for things like that. Actually Marketplace is even lower in quality and if you've ever used eBay Kleinanzeigen you know that it's hard to get under that level.

seriously, it's huge over here.

Wow. Maybe I should have another look at it, thanks for the information.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by newsgremlin »

tgb29 wrote: post #423
MegaButts wrote: post #385

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I can't believe you guys are arguing over whether or not Facebook used to be a dating site and nobody has mentioned the "poke" button.

When I was in high school, back before the news feed, Facebook was the best way to flirt! Go to someone’s page and post a comment — it was was so casual. Too bad Facebook killed it when they started broadcasting everything you post.

This is why people defaulted to Snapchat shortly after. Having temporary messages/pictures was ideal when after seeing evidence of failed relationships, people wanted the evidence of early flirting to be gone from the record.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by newsgremlin »

henrikschroder wrote: post #290
johnisgood wrote: post #31

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The article says this: Facebook Dating won’t match you with friends , unless you choose to use Secret Crush and you both add each other to your list. All of your Dating activity will stay in Facebook Dating. It won’t be shared to the rest of Facebook.

> unless you choose to use Secret Crush Add all your friends to Secret Crush. Watch who matched you. "Sorry buddy, I wasn't really using the thing, I just added everyone, but thanks for letting me know you like me!" Idiots. And this is why the shared identity is a terrible idea for dating sites. You want dating profiles to be throwaway, and you want it to be hard for your friends to find your dating persona for this…

>"Sorry buddy, I wasn't really using the thing, I just added everyone, but thanks for letting me know you like me!"

Just say you were doing the same thing. Can atleast deny it to leave some doubt, can't really question why you added everyone to Secret Crush when they also apparently did it.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by b_tterc_p »

vermarish wrote: post #413
b_tterc_p wrote: post #175

It sounds to me like a primary use case of this would be... cheating... Unlike other dating platforms, this one is integrated with your supposedly up to date profile. Being able to set up a low risk secret crush with a known friend seems likely to be popular to those interested in doing so. That is to say, a person who wants to cheat has no problem having a Facebook profile, so there’s not a need for anonymity agains…

There's no way Facebook would allow someone to use Facebook Dating while their relationship status is set to "married" or "in a relationship." That leaves only alternate accounts as an option for someone using their dating to cheat, but I dont think Facebook has much of an alternate account culture. Unless someone has an account for personal use and an account for "work" use that they cheat with? And their work frien…

I look forward to seeing if your first statement is true.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by blaser-waffle »

mtberatwork wrote: post #328
magashna wrote: post #240

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>I'm an anarchist. The license plate on my Jeep is literally "ANARCHY." Paying the government a premium to say you don't believe in it, that's rich.

Reminds me of the people who pay extra to the state to have the Gadsden flag license plate.

They love those in Virginia

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by blaser-waffle »

eeZah7Ux wrote: post #348
asdfman123 wrote: post #179

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> it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. It seems like a mistake. If you have one persona, that means…

> If you have one persona, that means that you need to optimize that persona for your career People are human beings before being little money-making machines. (At least outside of HN...)

I don't need to know the random opinions of my coworkers. The job is just a job, and if I only know them through work then all I need to see about them is work-related stuff. Leave the personal life at the door.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by asdfman123 »

jlg23 wrote: post #289
asdfman123 wrote: post #179

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> it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. It seems like a mistake. If you have one persona, that means…

> I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. Indeed. I live in a muslim country and here everyone uses dual-sim phones with 2 sims for the sole purpose of having 2 accounts at everything: one for the conservative part of the family, another for the modern…

I used to have a Facebook list specifically for the conservative part of my family so I could block the more "out there" stuff I wrote on the platform.

However now I just let it rip. I'm not trying to be weird like I was in my 20s, and I also realize I don't need to self-censor as much as I thought I needed to.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by magduf »

peterwwillis wrote: post #314
FillardMillmore wrote: post #94

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>What they really need is a "secret crush for FWB only" list: what if I have a friend that I'd be happy to be FWB with, but have zero interest in a serious relationship, but don't want to broach that topic with her for fear that it would mess up our friendship? This would be a perfect use for FB. Now there's an idea!

So just straight up ask the person "Have you ever thought about us hooking up?". If they don't want it, they'll just decline, and you can both get over it. Or they'll think you're a creep, and you won't be friends anymore, which is probably for the best seeing as you were harboring secret desires for this person. Either way, being up-front and honest will have a better result than letting Facebook connect you because…

>Because what people have been clamoring for is to know which of their friends like them more than is mutual, so they can feel weird.

How the hell is this something despicable and wrong in your eyes? Honestly, you sound like you have some kind of psychological problem if you think it's wrong to be attracted to a friend.

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