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Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by mastazi »

doubleunplussed wrote: post #306
jlg23 wrote: post #289

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> I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. Indeed. I live in a muslim country and here everyone uses dual-sim phones with 2 sims for the sole purpose of having 2 accounts at everything: one for the conservative part of the family, another for the modern…

How does having two sims help with that? I switch out my SIM when I travel internationally, but I am still logged into all my accounts.

Yes, but you can explicitly log out from your main account and then log into an alt account - as long as you’re not using the sim associated to your main account

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by cocochanel »

dlivingston wrote: post #219
buboard wrote: post #214

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depends on the dating culture. Casual dating apps are not popular here, so people use facebook messaging

Okay, walk me through this - do you, say, see a cute girl (friend of a friend, someone in your city, etc.) that you might fancy, and just randomly send her a message?

Yes. You casually introduce yourself, mention a thing or two in common (same groups for instance), and ask if they'd be interested in getting to know each other —assuming you have a solid FB profile and not something fake. Pretty much like you'd walk up to a person in a real life in a social setting and say Hi. Many of my friends met their girlfriends like that. If you don't get a reply then that's your answer, no hard feelings. If they're a friend of a friend, well, you just ask your friend for an introduction. I don't know how things are in the US, but it's not considered awkward at all in my country. I've had women approach me in this same way as well.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by myroon5 »

simcop2387 wrote: post #386
TallGuyShort wrote: post #19

"Secret Crush Lists" Yeah that doesn't sound like something that'll end up on Pastebin.

What's to stop me from just adding everyone I come across to mine this data for myself?

"you can select up to nine of your Facebook friends or Instagram followers who you’re interested in"

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by mdrzn »

kylel wrote: post #83
roland35 wrote: post #45

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I agree! It seemed like a no-brainer back around 2010 but now with all of the bad press it seems less desirable to put your dating life on Facebook.

This was a while ago, but I think in its early days Tinder was just an app on Facebook where you would “like” people on your friends list. If they “liked” you back the app would indicate a match. I always thought this was a really cool feature, and I wish they kept it. It felt more personal.

I think you mean Bang with Friends

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by wortelefant »

kinkrtyavimoodh wrote: post #283

I think HN should in particular not feel informed enough to comment on strategic benefit of product decisions like these, because the general HN opinion of FB which is at such odds at FB's place in society is enough to conclude that HN doesn't really understand FB. HN is a SV or SV-adjacent bubble that takes pride in not having social media profiles and doesn't hesitate in boasting about it in every frigging thread,…

Agreed, I (grudgingly) understood the value of fb during volunteer work. Most grassroots refugee support initiatives were run by non tech savvy people. They created Facebook groups to communicate with people who wanted to help. As there sometimes were right wing attacks against their work, they would not accept anyone into the group with an empty fb profile. They also used it for event planning, there are few alternatives to creating events on fb - meetup.com costs too much and does not have the same reach among volunteers. Similar dynamic with most local sports / dancing groups I know, a fb profile with some group memberships and likes serves as social proof.

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Post by kelnos »

dredmorbius wrote: post #374
kelnos wrote: post #327

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> I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. I disagree with this characterization. I live in SV and literally everyone I've talked to about privacy/anonymity on the internet sees the value in being able to partition one's life into different buckets for…

What individual SV tech workers want, and what SV CEOs and VC pursue, are two wildly different things. Using SV as a synecdoche for "movers and shakers in the information technology / adtech worlds", the statement stands.

Not sure if the point you're trying to make. The parent called it a "cultural thing unique Silicon Valley", which to me implied that it's pervasive in people's thinking. But it's not. The fact that some few CEOs seem to think that way does not make it a "cultural thing" by any stretch of the imagination. It's a scheme to make money and gain market share, not commentary on social values.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by gandutraveler »

jedberg wrote: post #391
gorgonian wrote: post #373

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Dave Chappelle is also an intolerant prick when it comes to gender and race, so it may not be so wise to quote him on that.

Dave Chappelle is a comedian and if you get offended by what he says during stand-up then you are a intolerant prick

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by buboard »

dlivingston wrote: post #219
buboard wrote: post #214

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depends on the dating culture. Casual dating apps are not popular here, so people use facebook messaging

Okay, walk me through this - do you, say, see a cute girl (friend of a friend, someone in your city, etc.) that you might fancy, and just randomly send her a message?

This is mostly between friends-of-friends , not for randomly adding people for hookups. Typically it involves sending a friend request followed by chat
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