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Post by johnnyanmac »

hitarpetar wrote: post #410
johnnyanmac wrote: post #408

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Yes, everything varies. We're talking about a country so I'm speaking about a country's general habits.

there are no "general habits" in a culturally heterogenous population of 340 million people

You're not going to be a very good statistician or data scientist if you have that mentality. Facebook became a trillionaire over the ability aggregate seemingly unoqie data of billions and provide value to adverts with it.

Like any other engineering, it's not about perfection. Being able to peedict that even 10% of these 340m people do a certain thing a certain way is enough to capture and establish a trend. That's all I'm doing here.

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Post by CrimsonCape »

karel-3d wrote: post #237
selfawareMammal wrote: post #233

> Once an event crosses a threshold (maybe 70%?) of male-or-female dominance, most people of the other gender are likely to decline (or just not-come to your next party) as a result. This is not true for men.

It really is. Men actually don't feel comfortable when they are at majority women party. They start to feel insecure.

When a guy walks into a minefield, do you accuse him of being insecure?

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Post by ryukoposting »

hutattedonmyarm wrote: post #170
ryukoposting wrote: post #132

Call me bad at parties, but a dedicated app for inviting people to the party is too much fanfare for my taste. If everyone waits around to see if their friends are going, nobody will RSVP because they're all waiting on each other to RSVP. We're all friends here. A good party fosters serendipity. Granted, I'm the same person who accepts any invitation to any concert, and intentionally doesn't listen to the band ahead…

> Call me bad at parties, but a dedicated app for inviting people to the party is too much fanfare for my taste. I agree. We threw a halloween party. We just discussed who we wanted to invite and threw everybody together in a whatsapp groupchat to announce the thing.

Same, but either Signal or plain ol' SMS depending on the group.

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Post by robocat »

fragmede wrote: post #228
yugioh3 wrote: post #177

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For me in the US, potluck describes the style of food and culinary expectation of guests. The actual gathering could be fun and wild if it’s a fun and wild family potluck or uncool and lame if it’s an elementary school fundraiser potluck.

Til you find out that Lucy added LSD to her chicken casserole, that is!

Don't leave your special cookies or shots where norms might consume them.

A friend left her brownies in a Tupperware in the fridge at work. The colleagues decided to help themselves (good people, so I assume with the intention to replace). There were some rather unfortunate outcomes including hospital visits.

Please learn from her mistake: don't ever leave drugged food where other people/minors/animals might eat it.

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Post by fragmede »

robocat wrote: post #414
fragmede wrote: post #228

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Til you find out that Lucy added LSD to her chicken casserole, that is!

Don't leave your special cookies or shots where norms might consume them. A friend left her brownies in a Tupperware in the fridge at work. The colleagues decided to help themselves (good people, so I assume with the intention to replace). There were some rather unfortunate outcomes including hospital visits. Please learn from her mistake: don't ever leave drugged food where other people/minors/animals might eat it.

How many times do I have to bake laxative cookies before people understand if it's not theirs, don't eat it?

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Post by morshu9001 »

Waterluvian wrote: post #65

I don’t like #2 because I hate the game of tricking people to be on time and then people start compensating further and eventually I’m trying to host a Cosmic Comet Party and you’re showing up after the punch has been distributed. I just like being honest and stripping away the layers of manipulation. “Starts at 2:00. Please be on time. If you don’t want to be the first, show up at 2:10. If you want to come early, we…

I like the :45 thing because it's not even dishonest. You just start the party at :45.

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Post by morshu9001 »

Einenlum wrote: post #247

Maybe it's because I'm French and the author is American (I guess?), but this post made me anxious. Putting so many rules and so much science on something that should be fun and spontaneous feels so wrong to me. Maybe a cultural thing. But I would never go to a party hosted by someone who thinks in statistical terms and uses a dedicated app to invite guests. I admit there are a few interesting tips though. Especially…

There's no way I would use an app for going to a party. Would also reconsider going at all if that was suggested. (USA)

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Post by morshu9001 »

mamidon wrote: post #231

I fully agree that most people won't be comfortable if they're the "only" man or woman at the party. How do you suggest evening genders out? Inviting couples is fine by definition; but I only really know single men. It seems odd for me to randomly invite single women I don't really know.

Idk, this problem only got solved for me when I got married and my wife started inviting women

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Post by vasco »

47282847 wrote: post #194
vasco wrote: post #186

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You're equally fine with how you are now or having 20 to 50 less IQ points? Of course you're missing something, probably the most important thing in the world after rich parents is being smart.

> Of course you're missing something, probably the most important thing in the world after rich parents is being smart. I cry a small tear for that limited world view, if it even was meant seriously or just as sarcasm.

Maybe you were just never surrounded by dumb people. The amount of damage they make to their own quality of life is almost unbelievable. I sure as hell think it's the biggest lottery we play with the most impact on the course of our lives. Intelligence and wealth of parents.

What you do with that after is up to you, but those two factors will make for the easiest lives.

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Post by ccanassa »

brianpan wrote: post #21
dlisboa wrote: post #14

I feel like this is really an American culture thing where parties or dinner parties are mostly the responsibility of the host. In movies or TV there’s even a common theme of guests judging the host’s hosting abilities. In Brazil you throw a party to people you like and they all have a hand in helping you, sharing the load. Everyone will be responsible for some part of it, all of it is organized informally, there are…

Even potluck parties tend to be better on average when someone or a few people are "in charge". In my experience, even when people are just getting together for dinner out, there are people who step up more to organize. Are you sure there aren't certain people driving these "informal" parties?

In Brazil, you are expected to bring food or drinks when you are invited as a guest to a party. If you stay until the end, you are also expected to help clean up the place. Guests will often take over certain parts of the party without even asking, such as preparing drinks, taking care of the barbecue, serving people, or going to the store to buy more drinks.
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