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Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by pmart123 »

FillardMillmore wrote: post #103
msoad wrote: post #49

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I think this is an "old people's thinking" perspective. Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate.

It makes me wonder how sensitive generation Z is to privacy concerns. It would seem to me that there would be vast differences between that generation and say, Gen X and Boomers (who for a long time refused to share credit card numbers with e-commerce sites). Perhaps the true success of this feature will become apparent with the coming Generation(s), assuming Facebook manages to maintain its position as the premier s…

I would say they are a lot more sensitive. They witnessed all the millennials post anything and everything on social media at first with little regard future consequences. I think there is a much better cognitive understanding that anything you post is permanent versus in 2007.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by unsignedint »

Tried to just to see... "We aren't suggesting people in your area yet." I guess I will have to wait. At least this didn't reject me like other dating sites did.

In any case, I'm not sure if I would be inclined actually meet someone from the result. Maybe because of my demisexual nature, but am I the only one feel reluctant to meet up with someone from dating sites?

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Post by vermarish »

b_tterc_p wrote: post #175

It sounds to me like a primary use case of this would be... cheating... Unlike other dating platforms, this one is integrated with your supposedly up to date profile. Being able to set up a low risk secret crush with a known friend seems likely to be popular to those interested in doing so. That is to say, a person who wants to cheat has no problem having a Facebook profile, so there’s not a need for anonymity agains…

There's no way Facebook would allow someone to use Facebook Dating while their relationship status is set to "married" or "in a relationship." That leaves only alternate accounts as an option for someone using their dating to cheat, but I dont think Facebook has much of an alternate account culture.

Unless someone has an account for personal use and an account for "work" use that they cheat with? And their work friends list are all part of the pool for the Facebook dating protocol? That would get real messy.

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Post by [deleted] »

henrikschroder wrote: post #290
johnisgood wrote: post #31

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The article says this: Facebook Dating won’t match you with friends , unless you choose to use Secret Crush and you both add each other to your list. All of your Dating activity will stay in Facebook Dating. It won’t be shared to the rest of Facebook.

> unless you choose to use Secret Crush Add all your friends to Secret Crush. Watch who matched you. "Sorry buddy, I wasn't really using the thing, I just added everyone, but thanks for letting me know you like me!" Idiots. And this is why the shared identity is a terrible idea for dating sites. You want dating profiles to be throwaway, and you want it to be hard for your friends to find your dating persona for this…

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Post by cameronbrown »

drewzero1 wrote: post #352
basch wrote: post #254

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It wouldnt be as big a deal, had facebook started as your "public" identity, like linkedin. But instead everybody who signed up 10 years ago was using it as their "private identity with a couple friends."

I'm glad it's not just me. I've pretty much abandoned my facebook account because it's full of all my stupid high school personal stuff, and doesn't really feel relevant any more. Yesterday a colleague had me link a third-party application to a business-related page using my personal account, and it felt like a huge invasion of my personal sphere to have pages for a band I was in ten years ago appear on the list next…

I use a wildcard email forwarder on my domain, it lets me easily look like different people while using the same inbox.

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Post by georgek »

dredmorbius wrote: post #374
kelnos wrote: post #327

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> I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. I disagree with this characterization. I live in SV and literally everyone I've talked to about privacy/anonymity on the internet sees the value in being able to partition one's life into different buckets for…

What individual SV tech workers want, and what SV CEOs and VC pursue, are two wildly different things. Using SV as a synecdoche for "movers and shakers in the information technology / adtech worlds", the statement stands.

As a Greek person I love it when people use our ordinary words as fancy words!

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Post by mfcl »

omarchowdhury wrote: post #379
dheera wrote: post #359

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2FA by phone should be dead. SMS is insecure and I've deprecated it for all forms of communication with me. I use virtual numbers for all websites and banks that have stupid forced phone 2FA, including Facebook.

There's token based 2FA as well.

Yes, we know that. They were talking about 2FA over SMS.

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Post by aianus »

dahfizz wrote: post #378
coryrc wrote: post #307

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Many accounts are tied to a phone number.

I still don't understand. Occasionally you need a phone number to sign up, but I've never needed a phone number to log in to something unless 2FA get triggered. But in any case, nobody else knows what phone number I used to create an account.

You often need two different phone numbers to create two different accounts on the same service. Otherwise you will get errors like "phone number already used, did you forget your password?".

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Post by taspeotis »

hombre_fatal wrote: post #142
mabermoske wrote: post #138

If I look at who I know that is still using fb it is almost exclusively older people. I'm 33 and deleted my fb account, almost every person I know younger than me either did the same or was never on in the first place. I see this being huge for older adults who are divorced or widowed, those are the people still using fb and I think would be happy to use this service.

Counter-anecdote: I'm 30 and have yet to meet someone in my dating/friend range (20-35) that never had Facebook here in Mexico or home in Austin. I'd be curious if you're socializing in some sort of anti-FB bubble or actually have a sample size of like 5 people when you consider the people you actually know this info about.

Regarding Facebook bubble, an anecdote:

29 here, I have Facebook and use it almost exclusively for responding to events organised by my girlfriend’s friends. She and her friends use it constantly for group activities.

If I don’t respond to an event I’m not going to they’ll text her to text me because if I don’t respond on FB I might as well be dead??

Within my circle of friends we organise ourselves via text message and I don’t think any of them use Facebook on the regular. As far as I know nobody has deleted their account due to some sort of privacy sentiment. They just don’t use it.

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