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The days are long but the decades are short

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Re: The days are long but the decades are short

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They don't want to come across as a creep.

The only people who will find that creepy are the people who will slap you if you try it without consent.

That's just not true. I've seen women online, women I know irl, who have said things along the lines of, "If you see a woman alone in a coffee shop, don't talk to her." Meanwhile, the same girls will complain about how men never talk to them. I see this more and more often within the latest wave of feminism.

I see women on Twitter complaining about "creeps" all the time even when they aren't doing anything I'd consider creepy.

Re: The days are long but the decades are short

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I'm not part of the elite. I do what I love even if that means I'm broke. Saying that you cannot do what you love because you are not priviledged are just excuses. Sacrifice what needs to be sacrificed otherwise don't whine. Find a way otherwise you were never meant to do it if you give up too easily. Most people are just talk though. They will do what they love if you hand them everything in a silver platter. Well t…

Well .. nothing against you, but if you can do what you love even if that means you are broke, means you are elite. It means you have some guarantee of a social support. May be your definition of broke includes welfare support from govt. There are parts of the world where people commit suicide if they are broke. All people in the first worlds are elites.

Social scientists have been trying to understand why some of the "happiest" people in the world (across "first" and "developing" economies even) are oftentimes of Hispanic origin. The general explanation that everything seems to point back to is basically that all of these cultures share extremely close ties and social support as the fundamental basis. This is in spite of all the poverty, violence, and general economic malaise that may be affecting us all.

What seems funnier is that even the "elite" seem to have trouble with this part, sometimes even because of their ambition and turning away many people.

So the clear goal to happiness to me is fundamentally "find people that you like and will support you and you will support them, and enjoy each others' company for the short time we do have on this planet. Inspire each other, love each other." This is regardless of whether you're a start-up founder in SF, drug addicted junkie in rural Honduras, or a housewife in Saudi Arabia.

I also disagree very much that everyone in the first world are "elites." Have you ever been to an Indian reservation in New Mexico? How about the backwoods of the Appalachians where there's still snake handler churches that hold services every Sunday at least? There's no running water in half of these places and transportation to the outside might be almost discouraged. Yet so many people will point and go "they're in the richest country in the world, they're PRIVILEGED!" and that's the same tired argument as saying that poor people in the West are "privileged" because they can afford a TV and electricity.

My point is really that your local conditions are EXTREMELY important regardless of what country you're in, period. Your social circles, your family, and even the people you hang out with online all affect you. And if you have none of these... that is rarely a recipe for happiness by anyone's definition aside from the most isolationist of worldviews.

Re: The days are long but the decades are short

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The only people who will find that creepy are the people who will slap you if you try it without consent.

That's just not true. I've seen women online, women I know irl, who have said things along the lines of, "If you see a woman alone in a coffee shop, don't talk to her." Meanwhile, the same girls will complain about how men never talk to them. I see this more and more often within the latest wave of feminism. I see women on Twitter complaining about "creeps" all the time even when they aren't doing anything I'd consid…

HN isn't really the place to get into a long conversation on this, but your comment supports even more the idea that the easiest way to kiss someone is to simply ask for consent before you do. Some guys have this idea that "Can I kiss you" will complicate things or kill the moment, but I've seen no evidence that that's true. It's four words, and saves you from the problems that come up if you kiss her and she wasn't comfortable with it.

Re: The days are long but the decades are short

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>Personally I found plenty of little things to love about otherwise horrible dead end jobs, but that wasn't really the reason to keep going back to work, I was there to get paid to live my life outside of work because the job itself was not really fun or fruitful. I actually think this is a better message for people... Some jobs are going to be great, others are going to suck. That doesn't really matter because for m…

I've heard advice in a similar vein as this and it really sounds great. I try to stay in this mindset but a part of me really struggles with the idea that I'm going to spend 40+ hours a week on a "means to an end". It just seems like such a long time to be unhappy, or at best not miserable?

For me this is the reason why I became a freelancer right out of college. While in hindsight I might have benefitted from some proper 'employee' experience in my field, the risk that I would've just stayed in that mode make me happy that I didn't make that choice.

As a freelancer living well below my means, I have the freedom to be as busy or relaxed as I want (within certain boundaries). Unlike an employee, it is up to me to be productive, improve my skills, handle my finances... or just do nothing all day. And unlike many other freelancers who don't live well below their means (or can't, it should be said), I don't often run into the problem that I have to accept a huge workload for long periods of time so that I can pay the bills in fallow periods.

Freelancing is not for everyone, and not every freelancer is as lucky as I am. But considering that many people could reach my 'level' of income by intensely studying and practicing for a few months, I'm often frustrated by how many people around me remain stuck in full-time jobs they truly hate, especially when these are low-paying jobs.

Re: The days are long but the decades are short

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Do your own research. The onus is not on me. I have done my research: I am a parent, and that's the position I'm promoting. If you can't defend your own position, don't expect somebody else to.

So you doubt there are parents that regret having kids? You can prove yourself wrong in 10 seconds of googling. I won't help those who don't want to see the truth for themselves.

[Citation Needed]

Don't come to a gunfight and expect somebody else to loan you ammo. If you can't be bothered to even dredge up some links, don't bother trying to debate with the adults.

Re: The days are long but the decades are short

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" On work: it’s difficult to do a great job on work you don’t care about. And it’s hard to be totally happy/fulfilled in life if you don’t like what you do for your work." How do you fix this? For the last 10 years of my life I've basically woken up each morning and wished I hadn't. I don't like what I do. I can't afford to not do it anymore. I don't even know what, if anything, I would actually enjoy waking up for.

Depending on happiness from a job doesn't actually seem healthy. I don't know your situation, but maybe there's some way to improve life outside work, e.g. social circle, hobbies, fitness, mental health.

The problem here is you spend a majority of your waking hours working. How can it not affect your quality of life? I get up at 6. Eat and then go to the gym until about 9. Work from 9:30 to about anywhere from 6:30-10. Go to bed. Rinse. Repeat. Thus is the life of a consultant.

How do people have time for social activities and things? I mean on weekends I usually work around the house to catch up on things I missed during the week. It takes me 5 hours to cut grass so that doesn't help. Maybe once every 2 months or something I will go out with my wife.

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