It's easy to get any bug fix you want: pay for them. If you think loading your expectations on to an unpaid volunteer and then harassing them over it will work out, hopefully this moment is a good learning experience for you. (Unfortunately, I can see from reading the comments that not everyone is getting it.) Perhaps someone should create an OSS contributor agreement where contributors explicitly agree to work long…
However, in this case patches and reproductions were submitted and rejected as "boring". Whether the author really meant to use the word "boring" is neither here nor there, the result was that the fix was ignored, even though that's how open source works!
I've watched from the sidelines with no skin in the game (I use Rocket) and my conclusion from all of this is that the maintainer should have created an actix committee or group of maintainers to help shield from the inevitable bugs and issues that crop up. If the OG author wanted to step back to take a break from all of this, then fine, the rest of the group can continue to churn and work.
The original article that called out the behavior also called out other incredibly popular crates, like reqwests, for their underlying HTTP stack, yet there's not a shitstorm about those libraries. The obvious difference that I can see is the maintainer response to said criticisms.
EDIT: I also want to make clear that I hated the comment about never writing rust again. I'm not condoning that behavior at all