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The golden rule applies to everyone regardless of gender. Think of it like how you would speak to your mother or father (assuming one has a healthy, respectful relationship of course). If you speak to a female colleague, is it something you can say to your own mother and be taken as appropriate? Same for if it were a male colleague, are the words appropriate to say to your own father? If the answer is "No" then don't…
I like this anecdote because it contains a non-sexist but inappropriate statement. It also shows that there are at least two possible mindsets: * I talk to my coworkers like they are my mother and your colleague's * I talk to my coworkers like they are my friends The fact that the statement was non-sexist hints at the problem being the second mindset; as for me, I make sure not to say sexist (and racist and so on) th…
Re: My positive experience as a woman in tech
#401The "like they are my mother" thing is really a bad analogy. A better one would be: "talk to coworkers like they are your grandmother" or "your aunt you only see once a year" or "your mother's female friend from church".