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Dad takes photo of his daughter every day for 18 years

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Re: Dad takes photo of his daughter every day for 18 years

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Post by evincarofautumn »

rayiner wrote: post #32

I'm surprised at all the negative comments. I think this project is really neat! Thanks to smartphones, I already have pictures of my daughter almost every day, just by happenstance. And I look at them almost every day. She's only 18 months old, but I'm already missing when she was a little potato-shaped baby. It's not for her, it's for me. Something for me to reminisce over when I'm old and she's moved out of the ho…

Out of curiosity, which comments did you interpret as negative? At the moment, I don’t see any that are distinctly negative, so I’m curious about how our perceptions differ.

Re: Dad takes photo of his daughter every day for 18 years

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Post by Casseres »

Brajeshwar wrote: post #23

I used to take photos, a lot, and uploading quite a bit to Flickr and other. But then, I started thinking if my daughter won't want when she grows up. She is an individual and may want something else entirely different. She is not an extension of me. I have reduced my photo/video of her. I do upload for families, relatives but have reduced the frequency and quantity drastically, have completed deleted her Flickr Acco…

The future is changing fast, and so are privacy implications. I'm glad you've recognized this.

I see my friends post pictures of their babies/kids all the time on social media. It's their right, but what's to say in the future that the then-grown kids will want their pictures made public?

Re: Dad takes photo of his daughter every day for 18 years

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Post by aestra »

amerkhalid wrote: post #39
voicereasonish wrote: post #4

People these days are so busy photographing, videoing, posting crap to twitter to see if people approve of what they're doing... They're missing out on actually enjoying and living life. Look at concerts - a sea of idiots holding up their phones, videoing an event, watching through their silly little phone. Enjoy the event! Buy the official DVD later if you want. So IMHO, this seems pretty obsessive and extreme. OK E…

Photography is a fun hobby for many people. It is an experience itself. And who cares if people are posting on Facebook and Twitter. I enjoy looking at my friends vacations and get ideas for things to do. But I agree with you on concerts, that is just rude to take photos while ruining the view for people behind you. And I love this project. It seems a natural project for any photographer parent. I am sure we will thi…

> who cares if people are posting on Facebook and Twitter

It is the sheer volume of photos that I believe bothers a lot of people. "oversharing." You get sick of the same baby every single day. Also craving extreme volumes of attention makes you come off as narcissistic. A lot of the time those photos aren't for them, they are to present to others in order to gain attention.

Re: Dad takes photo of his daughter every day for 18 years

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Post by aestra »

Casseres wrote: post #43
Brajeshwar wrote: post #23

I used to take photos, a lot, and uploading quite a bit to Flickr and other. But then, I started thinking if my daughter won't want when she grows up. She is an individual and may want something else entirely different. She is not an extension of me. I have reduced my photo/video of her. I do upload for families, relatives but have reduced the frequency and quantity drastically, have completed deleted her Flickr Acco…

The future is changing fast, and so are privacy implications. I'm glad you've recognized this. I see my friends post pictures of their babies/kids all the time on social media. It's their right, but what's to say in the future that the then-grown kids will want their pictures made public?

The pictures can be alright as long as they are in moderation and not embarrassing.

The thing that really really irks me the wrong way is people complaining about their kids on social media. "Johnny is being SUCH a brat today and raising hell." In my opinion that is just really unacceptable to publicly broadcast that in a manner that basically archives it (somewhere) forever. What will Johnny feel when he reads that comment in the future? I understand calling/emailing/texting a friend to vent, but not publicly. I know someone who basically all she uses facebook for is 1) posting pictures of her in yoga class doing all the positions wrong 2) bitching about her children non-stop and 3) talking about how WONDERFUL her husband is.

Re: Dad takes photo of his daughter every day for 18 years

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Post by aestra »

Every single day? She saw her father every day? Didn't this kid go away on weekend trips? Camping? Didn't her father go on travel or something? I wonder if this affected her growing up, her father never letting her explore the outside world without him for fear that he'll miss a picture??

I remember spending weekends at my friends houses, whole weeks during the summer with my grandma and some weeks with my cousin and her family. Going to overnight summer camp. Went on a few overnight trips with my aunt and uncle and one with my friend's family. Those are some of the very very best times of my childhood. I'm sad she missed out.

I know quite a few people who spent several summers growing up with family in a completely different geographical location on the other side of the country.

Re: Dad takes photo of his daughter every day for 18 years

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Post by rayiner »

evincarofautumn wrote: post #41
rayiner wrote: post #32

I'm surprised at all the negative comments. I think this project is really neat! Thanks to smartphones, I already have pictures of my daughter almost every day, just by happenstance. And I look at them almost every day. She's only 18 months old, but I'm already missing when she was a little potato-shaped baby. It's not for her, it's for me. Something for me to reminisce over when I'm old and she's moved out of the ho…

Out of curiosity, which comments did you interpret as negative? At the moment, I don’t see any that are distinctly negative, so I’m curious about how our perceptions differ.

As of the moment of writing this reply, the highest-ranked top-level comments below mine are: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7789558; https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7789437;

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7789400.

I don't feel like my taking a lot of photos keeps her from being an independent person, nor do I think it unduly intrudes on her privacy, nor do I think I'm missing out by taking photos instead of just enjoying the experience.

I'll be proud to see my daughter become her own person and find people she cares about more than me. She'll grow up and move on. But I can't. Part of me gets stuck in each instant in time where I look at her and know she's the most important thing in the world. So the way I see it, if I'm going to be hung up on these moments forever, I'm entitled to have pictures of them.

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