What I dislike about this is how preoccupied people are with how the rules of daily meetings should be enforced. As if it is a given that a) there must be daily meetings, and b) they must be defined as rules . I would rather we focused on the goal instead: The dev team must be coordinated, and they must not deviate enormously from the schedule without the project manager at least knowing about it. So here's our proce…
What you're talking about is, at least in the Agile world, described with the shu-ha-ri model. People at the "shu" level really want rules so they know what to do. People at the "ha" level want rules for others. It's only at the "ri" level, that of mastery, that you can fluidly do what works without discussion.
Getting a team to self-organization is tricky. Sometimes rules help.
For example, I know one team that really loved their daily stand-up, but they had a problem with chronic lateness wasting a lot of time. So for a while they created a rule that lateness was punished by $1/minute into the beer jar. I once saw the CEO put $45 in. He was pretty pissed, but he was on time after that. Eventually, everybody got their shit together and they didn't need the rule anymore.