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who said anything about relationships? this is only about getting laid. And if you are loaded and want to avoid gold diggers, nothing is stopping you from going 007 on it, rent an apartment, buy a beater, and pretend to be broke
Or just live in a comfortable place, drive a decent car... live like a normal person...
Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid
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#42Earlier quoted context omitted.
Of course I can't speak to you personally, but I've definitely seen cases of exactly what I described. It wasn't a joke.
Notice I said "quite a bit," not "when appropriate."
You were expressing apprehension at exploring why those particular attributes confer a high success rate.
i.e. Why might bad behavior be rewarded?
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#43being smart will get you laid, for sure. being raised in a family/culture that quashes social interaction and activities is the thing that will salt your game. edit: pulled it back to original version
"being smart will get you laid, for sure. being raised in a family/culture that quashes social interaction and activities is the thing that will salt your game."
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#44Earlier quoted context omitted.
Notice I said "quite a bit," not "when appropriate."
Wow, that took me a while to unwind. It wasn't immediately clear to me what "I can't, and don't want to, figure out the last part" referred to. You were expressing apprehension at exploring why those particular attributes confer a high success rate. i.e. Why might bad behavior be rewarded?
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#45All you really need to get laid is a willingness to eat humble pie while you climb the social learning curve. It's simple: smile, make eye contact, show interest, ask questions. You will probably feel like an idiot. Repeat until confidence outweighs fear. If you're smart, use your brain for wit, not for showing off.
Also, I need to lose about a hundred pounds and do something about my jebediah beard.
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#46being smart will get you laid, for sure. being raised in a family/culture that quashes social interaction and activities is the thing that will salt your game. edit: pulled it back to original version
Your point came across much better in the original version: "being smart will get you laid, for sure. being raised in a family/culture that quashes social interaction and activities is the thing that will salt your game."
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#47simply earn a ton of money, and your prospects to get laid will suddenly increase
That's a loser's game. Sure, a ton of money will get you laid... with precisely the kind of women one should avoid in the first place. Money does not increase one's attractiveness per se , it only attracts scavengers commonly known as gold-diggers. Better use the money to improve oneself...
That is not a loser's game. I have more respect for the guy who is getting laid because he is rich, than the guy who was born handsome. The latter was born blessed, the former had to figure a way to become a good candidate for fornication.
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#48Earlier quoted context omitted.
That's a loser's game. Sure, a ton of money will get you laid... with precisely the kind of women one should avoid in the first place. Money does not increase one's attractiveness per se , it only attracts scavengers commonly known as gold-diggers. Better use the money to improve oneself...
who said anything about relationships? this is only about getting laid. And if you are loaded and want to avoid gold diggers, nothing is stopping you from going 007 on it, rent an apartment, buy a beater, and pretend to be broke
Attracting gold-diggers can be fun if one sticks to pump & dump kind of debauchery. It might seem unscrupulous, but we're not discussing that. Worst-case scenario, one risks getting one of these gold-diggers pregnant... and be forced to see her again (or, preferably, her lawyer) in the future, which is never pleasant.
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#49Earlier quoted context omitted.
That's a loser's game. Sure, a ton of money will get you laid... with precisely the kind of women one should avoid in the first place. Money does not increase one's attractiveness per se , it only attracts scavengers commonly known as gold-diggers. Better use the money to improve oneself...
(Accidentally downvoted you. Apologies.) That is not a loser's game. I have more respect for the guy who is getting laid because he is rich, than the guy who was born handsome. The latter was born blessed, the former had to figure a way to become a good candidate for fornication.
Now, you could argue that if you're handsome, the woman loves your body, not you.
So I guess you really should have every negative quality possible, save your personality, if you want to truly "win." Except that you'll probably just totally lose.
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#50It's erected on a false dichotomy: "given a choice between happy-go-lucky and picky-but-lonely, happy sounds like more fun."
I don't personally measure my completeness or incompleteness by my romantic status. My estimation of self-worth comes instead from my research, my projects, and my work. It's an arbitrary preference, much as it's arbitrary for some people to feel completed by a union with someone else.
I'm smart, I'm driven, and I'm incredibly picky when it comes to the people I socialize with. Life is short, and just like everyone else does I make personal value judgments as to how best spend what little time I have. And in the end I'm quite happy--and still single.
Go figure.