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Hard disagree. Online friends are easy to ditch. Real life friends are around wether you like it or not. That fact alone has huge repercussions.
My best friends are friends I made due to my software hobby when I was a child. Hard to find such group concentrated in my proximity at the time.
I still continue to talk and meet with them every once in a while even though we are continents apart.
Had plenty of online friends come and go. What I found is that it usually took online relationships longer to get to know each other in some ways, and quicker in other ways. It was no fun realizing after a few IRL visits that we really just didn't like each other unless careful email communications was our primary means of interaction. With some folks the time it takes to write an email is all the filter is needed. S…
A great point that’s also true in reverse.
anybody got into the online to IRL issue where you pictured the person differently and it didn't survive the meeting ?
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Maybe I'm old school, but if you can erase someone from your life because you block them on an app, this probably was not 'real-life'?
How is that really any different than screening their phone calls or ignoring them if they come to the door?
anybody got into the online to IRL issue where you pictured the person differently and it didn't survive the meeting ?
Meeting an online friend IRL without ever having seen a photo of them is odd.
Hard disagree. Online friends are easy to ditch. Real life friends are around wether you like it or not. That fact alone has huge repercussions.
Yes, online people can disappear, but I have online friends whom I've been talking to for the past 12 years (basically all the way back to when i returned to the social internet).
It's really all about trust and time, like any other friendship.
How do you make online friends? I’ve been on Reddit for many years and have rarely even DM’ed anyone. I’ve also tried apps like Boo but the conversations always fizzle out.
I've been running my server for about 6 years already, and it's a pretty strong community of around 20 or so people. Sometimes we get new people, not everyone is a perfect fit and they might stay for a few weeks before leaving. Some have left after a few years, some leave and come back; others come every so many months to chat for a day or two before going away.
There's many different types of relationships that can be formed in places like that.
I think what's most important is that there needs to be something you all share for it to work. Maybe it's anime, sports, whatever (in my particular case, it's an LGBT server).
I've already met around 5-6 people from this server IRL, and so far it's always been a great time.
Here's the problem with online relationships, you can pick them up and drop them whenever you like. You can do that in real life to a degree, but sometimes you are forced to confront friends in real life when you don't want to. A real friend requires surviving a degree of confrontation.