Never allow yourself to be bullied or pressured into action. As a maintainer, the more a contributor or user nags, the less likely I am to oblige.
I did an engineering/program manager role for 8 years and people pretty much always did what I asked if I showed up at their desk or bothered their boss.
"Squeaky wheel gets the grease?"
But I too like to think that I prioritize my children on merit rather than fuss level. For some reason they continue to cry despite me claiming I don't react to it.