Look, I get it, the devx sucks. And it feels proprietary, icky, COBOL-like experience. It means you have to dwell in the database. What are you, a db admin?!
But I'm telling you, the payoff is worth it. (and also, if you ship it you own it so yes you're a db admin). My company ran for many years on 3 machines, despite it's extremely heavy page weight because the original author wrote it stored procs from the beginning. (He also liberally threw away data, which was great, but that's another post.) Part of my job was to migrate away from .NET and to Java and JavaScript - and another engineer wrote an ingenious tool that would generate Java bindings to SQL Server stored procs that made it really nice to work with them. And the performance really was outrageous - 100x better than any system I've worked with before or since. Those 3 boxes handled 300k very data intensive monthly actives, and that was like 10 years ago.
Don't worry - even if you lean into SPs there is still plenty of engineering to do! It's just that your data layer will simplify, and your troubleshooting actually gets easier, not harder. I liked the custom bindings - a bit like ActiveRecord, and no ORM. But really, truly: if you want to squeeze, move some queries into SPs and prepare to be amazed.