Why are so many young men single and sexless?

Damn, it's so tough for the older women out there in the cutthroat dating world. Why don't young single men start dating older women?

I am surprised over this. I thought the boys have advantage over girls in pandemic friends keeping. First, they play videogames as a form of socialization much more and therefore pandemic affected it much less. They still kept playing games with friends. And second, because non-feminist and slightly anti-feminists pundits created minor panic over girls socialization. (I put emphasis on non-and-slightly-anti-feminist, because feminists focusing on girls does not imply anything special).

Like, I get how video games as form of socialization prevent finding partner. But I am surprised they did not helped boys to keep friends.

My early 20s, online dating era romantic life was miserable; it made me feel completely worthless and that's a sentiment A LOT of young men get from those dating apps. I simply gave up, which was a good choice for a poor, stressed out and anxious engineering student.

However, around 28 and forward this drastically changed; and anyone above 30 can probably recall how the dynamic switches around this age group; men get more comfortable about themselves and women realizes that they're competing against people younger than them (which is a group growing every year). If family is a desire then that also add a sense of urgency

So suddenly (assuming you've put some work in) the dating (and sex) life becomes a balanced game.

This is ofc affected by other factors such as culture and demographics, which is closely tied to locations. But people have moved country and cities for all form of opportunities (including mating) so this is a way easier problem to solve, if one prioritizes it.

People already get married and have kids later, and have for a while. Only focusing on <30 males seems like a scope very useless to analyze the issue, if not from the negativa mental health consequences this have for young men

As of the therapy question: As someone who is in a happy relationship for more than a decade and never felt in need of therapy, I'd still agree here. If you want a healthy relationship with good sex, both sides being at good terms with themselves and their sexuality is a must. Therapy can be a very good way to come to terms with things that you would otherwise have a hard time adressing yourself.

If this is indeed a "supply side issue" that just means men must adjust to become the persons most women would like to share their lives with. Or even more simply put: They need to avoid being the person who women do not like to share their lives with: Men who are not on good terms with themselves, who have never reflected on who they are and why they have the desires they have, men who are desperate to get sex and don't even care anymore with whom, and when they get sex, the kind of sex they want comes out of works of fiction. There is a good supply of men like these and it turns out women are not in demand for that type.

You will have men that fit that exact description and still get women, by means of having a ton of money, good looks and so on – so they found different ways of attracting a specific subset of women that seeks for that. But my advice here is: If a man wants a happy and fulfilling relationship, starting with the baseline of "A man has to trick women into liking him" is a recipe for disaster. You might find women who accept this, but you will never find someone who likes you for who you are instead of for what you are.

Therapy is a good (but not the only) way to become a grounded, balanced, better individual and those tend to fare better in relationships.