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Gender and Age Differences in Love Styles and Attitudes

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Re: Gender and Age Differences in Love Styles and Attitudes

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Post by gotoeleven »

noobermin wrote: post #19

Does "gender gap" here matter more than what larger fractions show? For example, they say "women desire more Affirmation" but 49% have it as a top two while 56% have "time" in the top two. Men also have 54% for time in the top two. I feel like that's more interesting than looking at percentage differences (which tbh don't really seem to matter that much for this statistic). EDIT: a striking example of this, they say…

>>>Saying the words "women are more likely than men to do X" leaves the reader unfortunately with the impression "many women do X," whereas that might not be true.

Is there an accepted term for the extra caveat-ing and qualifying that people do with language these days to avoid the non-logical misinterpretations of factual statements by stupid people?

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Post by kova12 »

Karawebnetwork wrote: post #43

Gender stereotypes are social issues. They are not international and also differ per age cohorts even in the same region. I would be curious to see the same set of results split into different demographics and not just gender + age cohort.

You might be underappreciating genetic component here. Difference between sexes are very likely evolutionary, rather than social.

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Post by Karawebnetwork »

kova12 wrote: post #44
Karawebnetwork wrote: post #43

Gender stereotypes are social issues. They are not international and also differ per age cohorts even in the same region. I would be curious to see the same set of results split into different demographics and not just gender + age cohort.

You might be underappreciating genetic component here. Difference between sexes are very likely evolutionary, rather than social.

You are mixing gender roles and sex here. Yes, variables like the ratio of sex hormones will lead to different results but that's not all there is to it.

Matriarchal societies would definitely have different results than a country where women have no rights. Even in countries that are more average in gender equality, how do you explain the difference between countries in the percentage of women in leadership positions or in parliament?

"Gender differences in personality tend to be larger in developed societies (such as France and the United States) compared to less-developed countries (such as Zimbabwe and Malaysia)" ¹ ²

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits_an...

¹ Funder, David (2010). The Personality Puzzle. NY: WW Norton & Company. ISBN 978-0-393-93348-2.

² Costa, P.T.; Terracciano, A.; McCrae, R. R. (August 2001). "Gender differences in personality traits across cultures: Robust and surprising findings". Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. 81 (2): 322–331. doi:10.1037/0022-3514.81.2.322. PMID 11519935.

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Post by mensetmanusman »

azemetre wrote: post #23

Is there even a consensus that love languages are a valid concept? I ask because it's hard to see how falsifiable the idea is, reading about love languages seems highly "westernized" when love is a universal feeling not bound by culture. How do love languages apply to women in Saudi Arabia or Papua New Guinea? What about subsistence farming communities in Africa? What about native tribes in Brazil or Colombia? IDK, l…

Human behavior is flavored in the context of culture.

A western interpretation of love and the associated descriptions probably doesn’t apply to other cultures.

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Post by ravenstine »

The data is interesting, but I see it as poor quality. People are horrendously bad at self assessment on average, and many have "main character" syndrome that biases them towards claiming favorable traits they may lack in practice.

There's a reason you don't ask a woman for advice on dating women, or men on how to date men. Most people, particularly young people, don't actually know what they want. Personality tests aren't worthless, but you're essentially asking people about themselves that way.

A better study should ask one sex their perception of the other. This is imperfect, but I believe personal experience is more useful than self assessment or personality tests. In the end, it's how the sexes actually interact that matters.

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Post by greenonions »

ravenstine wrote: post #48

The data is interesting, but I see it as poor quality. People are horrendously bad at self assessment on average, and many have "main character" syndrome that biases them towards claiming favorable traits they may lack in practice. There's a reason you don't ask a woman for advice on dating women, or men on how to date men. Most people, particularly young people, don't actually know what they want. Personality tests…

It's true that people don't have any idea about themselves, but I'm very skeptical you would get any better data by asking a different sex.

Just as much as people don't know themselves, they often know even less about others.

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