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Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by est31 »

langsoul-com wrote: post #28
anewpersonality wrote: post #5

The new friend catchers are all on Discord.

Pretty hard to find friends on discord, join a server that's too popular and it's like a twitch stream. Join one too small and no one talks or quickly runs out of topics. The best ones might be activity centred discord channels, like translating mangas. But, at that point, discord isn't the friend catcher anyway.

I know what you mean, many discords fall into either category. But there are discords that are in the sweet middle ground. Also requires time investment on your part though because you won't make friends by just lurking and never interacting.

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by meowtastic »

freddref wrote: post #13
meowtastic wrote: post #6

I really want to believe in this, but from personal experience it hasn't worked out. I used to spend a lot of time posting frequently on LinkedIn, nothing came out of it. Maybe I didn't try hard enough, maybe there's survivor bias in the success stories, who knows.

I've had the same experience on linkedin, and I think it's because a lot of the content is not specific enough, it increasingly feels like facebook. I think there may be other places with a higher density of very specific purpose, like angel.co edit: this point is made in the article - "The beginners guides to everything have already been written. What’s missing is more advanced content."

Yes, when I realised it's just like Facebook I decided to stop posting altogether. I never heard of angel.co as a social platform, only know of it for startup jobs. I'll have another look, thanks!

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by swyx »

rozenmd wrote: post #4

More on friendcatchers here: https://www.swyx.io/friendcatchers

haha thanks for the shoutout. i definitely owe @patio11 some inspiration on this and despite people's cynicism on this page it has changed my life. just met a 5-year long mentor of mine who I've never met 1:1 before, and he knew about the friendcatchers I left out there because of the impact/word of mouth they have had.

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by PcChip »

bgdkbtv wrote: post #19
rozularen wrote: post #18

I don't know, I think your dad's advide is pretty spot on? Just that it isn't mutually exclusive with the fact that IF you want to be recognized by the content you put up, you'll have to associate your name with it. I started surfing the web in the early 00's when I was like 3 or 4 yo so it sticked to me the whole nickname thing way before asking for First Name and Last Name, cell phone, ID number, street address was…

Yeah righto mate, you started browsing the web when you were 3?

I started my son on computer games (minecraft, Starcraft, borderlands) when he was 2.9

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Post by meowtastic »

david_allison wrote: post #8
meowtastic wrote: post #6

I really want to believe in this, but from personal experience it hasn't worked out. I used to spend a lot of time posting frequently on LinkedIn, nothing came out of it. Maybe I didn't try hard enough, maybe there's survivor bias in the success stories, who knows.

Post one in a reply to this. What are you looking for?

Sure, here are a few things on my mind now: - Practical use cases for crypto/blockchain. I don't believe in the speculative financial assets that came out of it, but I am intrigued by the idea of a central bank digital currency for example. - How to make some side income while having a full-time dev role in London. - General startup ideas chat with people who aren't too attached to one particular view.

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by dkersten »

giantg2 wrote: post #25

I don't think I've ever met someone online and later met them in person. Except for dating sites. It seems more difficult to make friends the older I get. I think at least part of it is that everyone is so busy.

In my earlier days of internet use, I actually made some online friends that I later met in person (and still kinda-sorta-ish keep in contact with ~20 years later).

But I haven’t met anyone online that I have any in person contact with in a long long time. Although I haven’t really made any friends online in ages either, most of my communication with strangers seems to be one off messages like these HN comments that have no real hope of ever developing into anything else. I guess friendships develop in chat rooms rather than comment boards, which is how I became friends with the people I did become friends with.

It’s definitely a lot harder the older I get and it’s quite frustrating. People are busier, I’m busier, makes it hard. Even just going out, the majority of people are a lot younger than me, which is fine for hanging out (I hung out with people my age when I was the same age as the people I see now), but I find it extremely difficult to build a deeper connection or relationship with them, I guess I feel like the creepy older guy sometimes so I stay distant. Double so for dating. It doesn’t help that I have anxiety, I suppose. My core friend group are great and we do hang out, but yeah, they’re busy, most have kids too, which makes it very hard to just casually meet up.

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by alimoeeny »

est31 wrote: post #41
langsoul-com wrote: post #28

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Pretty hard to find friends on discord, join a server that's too popular and it's like a twitch stream. Join one too small and no one talks or quickly runs out of topics. The best ones might be activity centred discord channels, like translating mangas. But, at that point, discord isn't the friend catcher anyway.

I know what you mean, many discords fall into either category. But there are discords that are in the sweet middle ground. Also requires time investment on your part though because you won't make friends by just lurking and never interacting.

How do you find this subset of discords? I mean most of the ones I hear about are from creators promoting their servers and by definition they’re too busy and chaotic. Any pointers?

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by egypturnash »

Everything described in this history could have happened just as easily if he'd posted everything under the name "Raver Tomato".

Aliases give you the option of more easily disassociating things from your legal identity, as well as making it harder for people to find all the embarassing shit you posted when you were a teenager.

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