The iCloud Relay paper outlined a pretty private and secure design [0] (and the intention to standardize it via IETF would probably make it simpler to self-host such a solution [1][2]). Among the VPNs, orchid.com's distributed VPN stands out as a cross-provider multi-hop solution whose privacy guarantees are closer to Tor's.
Eventually the hope is HTTP (www) itself bakes in desirable privacy properties, so regular users don't have to pay the cost of multi-hops [3].
[0] Overview: https://datatracker.ietf.org/meeting/111/materials/slides-11...
[1] https://ietf-wg-masque.github.io/