If you are the President of a university (or a company) that has an explicit official policy prohibiting romantic relationships between superiors and subordinates, and you have a semi-secret romantic relationship with a subordinate that many people know about, then someone in the know who is upset with one of your management decisions retaliates by telling the truth to HR, then I have zero sympathy for you. Are they…
"Rules are meant to be broken" is a great maxim in my opinion. It's the expression of truly democratic attitude towards rules. Something that's "technically wrong" but taken by the majority as not an ethical issue deserves to live because it questions the legitimacy of the rule. How any progress happens.
Academe is a hotbed of craven snitches
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#42Earlier quoted context omitted.
Zoot Allure. And what pray tell if these people fell in love? Is this not the plot of countless romance novels and movies for a reason? Nobody is special. Must follow rules. You will be reported. Zero sympathy. No exceptions. Are we in East Germany? Imagine if you were French. Or had a pulse. I swear, society is overrun with gross troglodytes. Look, lets be real honest here. The snitch is usually an unattractive jeal…
And we’ve blown past Godwin’s law already. That was fast. If the rule is so bad… shouldn’t they fix the rule ? But it’s there for a reason, so they shouldn’t fix it. It’s not broken.
The person I responded to phrased it in a soul revealing manner:
> you chose to flagrantly violate the rules, thinking that you were special
Therefore the snitch will punish you and vengefully cut you down to size. You will be equally unspecial and unhappy compared to the snitch, don't you see?
We aren't talking some rule about borrowing red staplers. We're talking about private affairs between adults. Could be a perfectly happy couple.
This is very much the toxic vibe of East Germany and USSR societies. To a tee.
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#43If you are the President of a university (or a company) that has an explicit official policy prohibiting romantic relationships between superiors and subordinates, and you have a semi-secret romantic relationship with a subordinate that many people know about, then someone in the know who is upset with one of your management decisions retaliates by telling the truth to HR, then I have zero sympathy for you. Are they…
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#44> for either minor or nonexistent offenses On the one hand, society institutes these rules and we supposedly claim to be rule following people. On the other hand, people who try to have the rules enforced are labelled as "snitches." Your answer to why tragedies occur but even when people knew, nobody did anything. Do the rules matter or not?
Go to the cops and try to turn yourself in for that time you ticked a "I have read the terms and conditions" checkbox dishonestly. I suspect you'll find some rules matter more than others.
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#45I'm having a serious "Gell-Mann Amnesia effect" moment on this one: I don't think that representation of the Ewell paper is quite accurate, though admittedly it's been over a year since I read it. Despite being Jewish (would have had different significance later than during his time!) Schenker was a proud german nationalist and in his own words considered his method one of the ways german people could assert their su…
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#46If you are the President of a university (or a company) that has an explicit official policy prohibiting romantic relationships between superiors and subordinates, and you have a semi-secret romantic relationship with a subordinate that many people know about, then someone in the know who is upset with one of your management decisions retaliates by telling the truth to HR, then I have zero sympathy for you. Are they…
Zoot Allure. And what pray tell if these people fell in love? Is this not the plot of countless romance novels and movies for a reason? Nobody is special. Must follow rules. You will be reported. Zero sympathy. No exceptions. Are we in East Germany? Imagine if you were French. Or had a pulse. I swear, society is overrun with gross troglodytes. Look, lets be real honest here. The snitch is usually an unattractive jeal…
Also: if you could just as easily break vs. change a rule, want to do so, but still believe it's generally a good rule - is it better to just break it?
I guess this is what both sustains and dooms autocracies.
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#47Earlier quoted context omitted.
And we’ve blown past Godwin’s law already. That was fast. If the rule is so bad… shouldn’t they fix the rule ? But it’s there for a reason, so they shouldn’t fix it. It’s not broken.
I specifically said East! East! haha. The person I responded to phrased it in a soul revealing manner: > you chose to flagrantly violate the rules, thinking that you were special Therefore the snitch will punish you and vengefully cut you down to size. You will be equally unspecial and unhappy compared to the snitch, don't you see? We aren't talking some rule about borrowing red staplers. We're talking about private…
But the rule is there for a reason, a good reason, and everybody else had to follow it. I’ve heard of people leaving companies and having to effectively be demoted due to interpersonal relationships; that’s the responsible thing to do. It avoids the issues of conflict of interest and power dynamics. Choosing to simply flaunt the rules is not exactly admirable and maybe not even that romantic. The maximally romantic thing would be to give up the position as a sacrifice.
Do I get why someone wouldn’t want to do that? Sure, but you can’t eat your cake and have it too…
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#48> for either minor or nonexistent offenses On the one hand, society institutes these rules and we supposedly claim to be rule following people. On the other hand, people who try to have the rules enforced are labelled as "snitches." Your answer to why tragedies occur but even when people knew, nobody did anything. Do the rules matter or not?
Re: Academe is a hotbed of craven snitches
#49I'm having a serious "Gell-Mann Amnesia effect" moment on this one: I don't think that representation of the Ewell paper is quite accurate, though admittedly it's been over a year since I read it. Despite being Jewish (would have had different significance later than during his time!) Schenker was a proud german nationalist and in his own words considered his method one of the ways german people could assert their su…
edit: Actually let me go a step further and agree with you a bit - I think Kipnis's point would be more clearly made if she didn't make her own perspective on the merits of the Ewell paper such a big part of that section of the article.
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#50It's sad but true in my experience. My thesis advisor makes this a sport, apparently. I learned this after I graduated. One friend explained that my advisor would often call up colleagues at other universities and tell them not to hire particular people. He's apparently known for this habit. It's one thing to provide a recommendation when requested. It's another to routinely campaign against others and provide anti-r…