See also, https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=27192873 (Ask HN: Are you satisfied with Elixir or do you regret choosing Elixir?) with great insights about the language. Another popular thread that comes to mind is the one about Discord scaling Elixir ( https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14748028 and https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19238221 )
Disclaimer: I use Elixir in production (e.g. here on the French national transport data hub https://transport.data.gouv.fr/?locale=en ), but I also like other tools (Ruby, Rust, Crystal etc). My impression is that some (not all) people had a bad experience partly because they may have reached for Elixir at a period where everything wasn't "settled" (a bit too young). The "first vague of hype" generated some libraries…
I found it to be extremely performant (especially when compared to the built in xmerl) and I like using the SAX technique.