This is a good and understandable observation.
The next question is whether this is from lack of common constructs/conventions by those new to F# or if it would always pervade as seems to be the case with Lisps. e.g. Clojure was specifically made to cover more in its library and syntax to promote standard styles.
Rather than thinking F# didn't/doesn't work, what were the reasons and what could be changed so it did work well?
Maybe some workflow changes like more design discussions before putting up a PR for review, or pair programming with rotating pairs so that conventions emerge. Also over time the codebase itself if it has benefited from convergence would show repeating patterns of adopted conventions.
I see the language itself as unapproachable only by reputation/lineage. In practice it can be on about the level of Elixir which is gaining traction and success stories.