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How much RAM? Are you installing from Omnibus packages? I ask because I have two servers and have near perfect uptime.
64 GB on a 16 core machine that has nothing else to do. If any, I think this is maybe too much, every worker just spawns more and more workers. I restricted Postgres from taking all RAM, Sidekiq and Puma to low numbers. But there are more.. I follow the instructions straight from Gitlab.
It's specially important at this size to have git in a different machine than the database as both are I/O constrained.