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How my childhood friend became an Internet laughingstock.

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Re: How my childhood friend became an Internet laughingstock.

#41

I think we're overestimating the "anonymous internet snark" aspect of this phenomenon. Back before most people lived in large cities and could be anonymous, this sort of thing still happened. People got reputations, and they rarely lived down embarrassing things that became public knowledge. Is it really worse for some random person thousands of miles away to laugh at a mugshot and a story (someone who could meet you…

The internet simply increases the reach that stories like this have. It reminds me of an old joke, appropriate before the net: "You know son, I was a volunteer fireman in this town, put out many blazes, but they don't call me Billy the Fireman. I also build quite a few bridges in my time, and they're still standing to this day, but they don't call me Billy the Bridge Builder. But you fuck one goat..."

"The internet simply increases the reach that stories like this have"

And drowns each needle in a steadily-growing haystack of other stories.

Re: How my childhood friend became an Internet laughingstock.

#42
I can't relate. I generally do not take glee in the misfortune of others and don't enjoy such "jokes". And this whole thing just makes me shake my head. He did absolutely nothing good for his childhood friend. He just made it worse by providing all kinds of additional personal info and extra publicity for something I'm sure the guy wishes would just go away. Ugh.

Re: How my childhood friend became an Internet laughingstock.

#43

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It is worse when its something embarrassing (rather than criminal). Like the lady who fell in the fountain. Now every employer, boyfriend, colleague will know about this. It's no longer anyone in your small circle in your hometown, but anyone with an internet connection.

I think you overestimate the lifespan of these things. When we're inundated with a dozen new public humiliation memes a day, people just won't remember. Who looks to see whether some person you've met is the subject of embarassing YouTube videos? Do you really think you'd recognize the Star Wars Kid if you passed him on the street?

Not if I passed him on the street, but if he joined my company, I'd Google him. I've probably searched for every person I know. Takes five seconds and on occassion yields something really interesting.

Re: How my childhood friend became an Internet laughingstock.

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post #9

> Most of us are Internet bullies now, some of us more active than others. Yeah right. Most people I know aren't, and most people I discuss with online aren't either. I'd say the reality is that the blog author belongs to a minority of people acting like bullies and now he tries to defend his behaviour by saying 'everyone else does it'.

It would appear that you hang around on a different internet than I do. I'm envious. The internet I frequent is populated by people who love to forward stories around, post links to Facebook (with comments like "I can't believe how stupid this guys is", and do the same on Twitter. Web sites which showcase said stories, and maybe if they're very lucky, mainstream news will cover them as well. I pay about $80/month for…

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Re: How my childhood friend became an Internet laughingstock.

#45
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It's not that I don't see that happening but it's always from people I don't know and never talked to in real life or on the internet. I have this strong feeling it's a loud minority. It's the same with real bullying, the bullies think they behave normal but the majority think they are bullies. edit: changed majority to minority:)

I think you're probably right. I think people don't necessarily associate ridiculing someone on the internet with bullying (in many cases because the target of ridicule isn't there interacting with them).

Sure me and my friends talk shit about people that has been exposed doing stupid things on the internet, but we do it in private. We don't ridicule in public. I think that's the difference.

Re: How my childhood friend became an Internet laughingstock.

#46

Of course writing an article in Slate (including photos of the childhood "friend") pushes the whole story from obscure Internet news (which I hadn't heard/cared about) into the mainstream...

exactly. I hadn't heard about it either before seeing this post.

Re: How my childhood friend became an Internet laughingstock.

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We've been talking a lot about this article on Facebook since Luke published it. Full disclosure: I grew up with the guy in question, and am friends with the author of the piece (both were in my Boy Scout troop). I was most struck by the fact that I hadn't heard anything about this story until he wrote this article, and feel pretty shitty about the situation. It's easy to see things on the news and lose sight of the…

He got arrested in a ridiculous way. Worst case scenario is he'll have to change his name. People are far, far worse off all over the planet.

Re: How my childhood friend became an Internet laughingstock.

#49

Of course writing an article in Slate (including photos of the childhood "friend") pushes the whole story from obscure Internet news (which I hadn't heard/cared about) into the mainstream...

Agreed. If he hadn't published his name/incident, I might be able to read the story without cringing. I'm glad I didn't grow up with Luke.
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