The link between premarital sex and marriage stability • Hacker News Board

Re: The link between premarital sex and marriage stability

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Post by gus_massa » Thu, Nov 22, 2018, 5:32 PM UTC

brobdingnagians wrote: post #23

At university I took a class about this sort of stuff and one of the eye opening things was the studies about how the couples with the best sex life were actually old, married, religious couples. If you want great sex, then going to church and having a lifelong, selfless, loving commitment to your partner seems to help a lot; but that sure makes sense anyways... There are a lot of studies about how pornography and su…

> [...] the couples with the best sex life were actually old, married, religious couples.

How did the measure the quality of the sex in religious couples to compare it with the quality of sex in non religious couples? Self report? Gesell chamber? Videos? Some attached sensors?

Are all religions equal?

Re: The link between premarital sex and marriage stability

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Post by api » Thu, Nov 22, 2018, 6:30 PM UTC

I have issues with this study but this is definitely flagging abuse. Mods need to clarify that flagging is for spam, trolling, and ads, not disagreement.

Re: The link between premarital sex and marriage stability

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Post by Svoka » Thu, Nov 22, 2018, 6:48 PM UTC

Correlation is not causation.

Re: The link between premarital sex and marriage stability

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Post by shoo » Thu, Nov 22, 2018, 8:09 PM UTC

gammateam wrote: post #17

Reinforcing that people are as faithful as [their knowledge of] options. This is a study about women, it applies to men as well. The remaining question would be the utility of marriage stability. As in, this study and most responses to this would be about a desired outcome, about premarital sex or marital stability being "good" or "bad". There are lots of examples of problems people and families have outside of wedlo…

> The remaining question would be the utility of marriage stability.

Completely agree. Context about specifics of marriage matter. There isn't even a single notion of utility.

Perhaps another way to drive the point home is to enumerate possible (immediate) causes of divorce:

infidelity, money, poor communication, frequent arguments, weight gain, unrealistic expectations, lack of intimacy, lack of equality, lack of preparation for marriage, abuse. +

In many cases, ending an existing marriage is going to be a much better outcome then alternatives for at least one of the partners involved.

Cherry-picking a more extreme example: what's the utility of a stable abusive marriage to the person getting abused?

+ 10 most common reasons for divorce, Marriage.com . Who knows if this data is any good, but it's enough to start taking