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My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

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Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

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Only depression and anxiety? That sucks, and I wouldn’t wish those on anyone... but try also having ADD, mild Asperger’s, home drama, stuttering (silent block, way more awkward than repeating)... oh and being not a celebrity, unemployable, unpersonable, broke and homeless. It’s all my fault, I know, I’m lazy for going to interviews and people not liking me for reasons/feedback they’ll never mention.

Depression isn’t good or victim-hierarchy laudible, get rid of it with CBT, group, exercise, diet, work, socializing, meds... whatever.

Anxiety is shit too but I down about 12 hydroxyzine a day.

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

#42

> as a white, heterosexual, cisgender man in America, I live life on the lowest difficulty setting Seriously, what is this shit? Is there a grant I'm not aware of that's given to straight white men? Free housing somewhere? I'm white and straight and American and I'm pretty sure my children's education is paid for by my near constant work (and my wife's) not by the magical fairy dust that was sprinkled on me at birth.…

> Is there a grant I'm not aware of that's given to straight white men?

Yes.

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

#43

> as a white, heterosexual, cisgender man in America, I live life on the lowest difficulty setting Seriously, what is this shit? Is there a grant I'm not aware of that's given to straight white men? Free housing somewhere? I'm white and straight and American and I'm pretty sure my children's education is paid for by my near constant work (and my wife's) not by the magical fairy dust that was sprinkled on me at birth.…

He’s better off than almost everyone in Somalia but worse off than Baron von Trump. Identity politics is divisive no matter what, and it looks really weak to appologize for being included in the most hated group of someone else’s victim-hierarchy.

I think the goal of feminism is to indirectly give white men a complex about themselves, life or women, similar to the chip-on-the-shoulder a large fraction of African-American people unfortunately have... creating an endless cycle of punishment, self-doubt, self-sabotage, bitterness and othering just because “we” can.

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

#44
post #8

Here is a terrible awful fact most people are unaware of: The suicide rate has been going up steadily since 2000 and we are back where we were in the mid 1980s[1]. I found this out by listening to a speech from a mental health convention where the doctor giving the speech was blasting the commonly held idea that antidepressants had solved everything. [1] https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/04/22/4748888...

The suicide rate for 10-14 year olds has increased over 250% since 2007.

Palo Alto has permanent 24/7 suicide-by-train watch at all major crossings. Those folks sit out all night, even in heavy downpours, under a flimsy vinyl personal shelter and what amounts to a beach chair.

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

#45
post #40

> as a white, heterosexual, cisgender man in America, I live life on the lowest difficulty setting Seriously, what is this shit? Is there a grant I'm not aware of that's given to straight white men? Free housing somewhere? I'm white and straight and American and I'm pretty sure my children's education is paid for by my near constant work (and my wife's) not by the magical fairy dust that was sprinkled on me at birth.…

"Seriously, what is this shit? Is there a grant I'm not aware of that's given to straight white men" You can get a little badge that says "respectable citizen, handle with care". You don't see it, but people in authority do.

It's called a stereotype, and it depends more on other aspects than skin color. Mostly on how you communicate (vocabulary, grammar, accent, gestures) and how you look (beauty, illness cues, dress code).

White, heterosexual, cis-gender male that "looks like a junkie", acts disrespectful and speaks slang? Good luck getting authorities to consider you a "respectable citizen, handle with care".

I'm not denying skin color or gender are traits often included in stereotypes, but it is not the only one, nor the most relevant.

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

#48
I'm going to say something that probably get me banned from this SJW cesspool that HN have become: his depression is a sign of his gut telling him he is not a real man. He is a soy boy, so obsessed with looking like he is not a sexist/racist/homophobe that he cant appreciate anything else in life and blame others for not accepting him. He just need to man up.

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

#49
post #48

I'm going to say something that probably get me banned from this SJW cesspool that HN have become: his depression is a sign of his gut telling him he is not a real man. He is a soy boy, so obsessed with looking like he is not a sexist/racist/homophobe that he cant appreciate anything else in life and blame others for not accepting him. He just need to man up.

More nuanced take: men are finally acting like women have told them to act for decades: talk about your feelings, open up, be in touch with your inner self... not realizing that only works for women because women's feelings matter and verbalizing them often enough will cause others to take action sooner or later. The reason men had the "irritating" habit of offering solutions is because it was inconceivable to most that you'd complain and expect that to actually accomplish anything.

It's like an attractive person telling the ugly that they just need to approach the world with a more positive attitude and good things will come in return. No honey, that's only because they want to have sex with you. Other people don't get shit for free.

As Warren Farrel said: men's facade of strength is their weakness, women's facade of weakness is their strength. When a man displays weakness, he forfeits his right to get help.

Two generations now have been utterly miseducated on gender by a feminized education system that treated masculinity as a condition to be medicated away and passive femininity as the role model, not realizing boys need adversity in their youth to prepare them for the complete heartlessness they'll receive as adults.

"But I love my husband!" Yes, until the marriage is over, after which he'll be devastated and pining for years, while you'll discard him like an old pair of shoes, still getting alimony, the house and the kids.

Re: My name is Wil Wheaton. I live with chronic Depression, and I am not ashamed

#50
Wow, interesting. I comment around the internet as anonymously as possible on posts by people asking for help with their depression. Or people posting without knowing that they can ask for help. I've even posted a few times here on HN. My list of steps for immediate mitigation of the symptoms are almost exactly his steps:

1) Throw your clothes in the laundry.

2) Go for a short run.

3) Take a shower.

4) Put on clean clothes and eat a healthy meal.

5) (Which is implied in Wil's post but something I always say explicitly): Make an appointment with your doctor, or any doctor that will point you to the right doctor.

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