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Re: Americans are having less sex and researchers are blaming Netflix

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Post by cbstory »

insickness wrote: post #8

I would attribute it more the glut of free online porn than netflix. Men consume porn far more than women because men are more visually stimulated than women. This has been verified by numerous scientific studies. In many ways, women can't compete with porn. Hundreds of years ago, the average man would be delighted to get sex from the average woman in his local community. Through porn, your average guy has seen more…

This pretty speculative and kind of sexist.

I mean you could kind of flip it around, only instead of men and porn it's women and dating apps.

That the likes of tinder makes the most attractive men far more accessible to women, so they are no longer interested in the average man.

And similarly tinder apps and the like have drastically reduced the costs of dating compared to the past. It's private, you only get hit on by men you like. You can safely reject them etc...

I think this is just as inflammatory.

Are men really choosing turning away from women because they are "lame" compared to porn? At least for me porn is for when I'm not in a relationship or my s.o is occupied.

If I had to reach for a cause I would say it's a mix of economics and modern entertainment/past times being far less a social experience.

I was in rural village recently and it was pretty clear to me that people are going to hook up less if they are spending their weekends on Facebook and Netflix then dancing around a fire.

Re: Americans are having less sex and researchers are blaming Netflix

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Post by xandar11 »

I've experienced a traumatic event recently. After being rejected by hundreds of women, I'm still a virgin at 24. Recently, I saw a video in weird corners of the internet of a very cute girl copulating with some dog. Dog can get laid easily while for me it's impossible at this point. Women are telling me that I'm BENEATH a dog. They'd rather be copulating with a dog, cucumber, dildo or stay single than be with me :(

Re: Americans are having less sex and researchers are blaming Netflix

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Post by Fifer82 »

xandar11 wrote: post #42

I've experienced a traumatic event recently. After being rejected by hundreds of women, I'm still a virgin at 24. Recently, I saw a video in weird corners of the internet of a very cute girl copulating with some dog. Dog can get laid easily while for me it's impossible at this point. Women are telling me that I'm BENEATH a dog. They'd rather be copulating with a dog, cucumber, dildo or stay single than be with me :(

That isn't true man, I was 23 before I had a GF and anything up until that was when I was ruined on ale and so was the girl and in a way didn't really count.

At the end of the day, if you really want to just have sex just pay for it like everything else in modern society and get it off your chest. Done.

Re: Americans are having less sex and researchers are blaming Netflix

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Post by AmVess »

I'd blame work and stress. Your average person is working longer hours for less financial benefit, while the cost of basics (housing and health care) has gone way up.

Longer working hours for less money makes people tired and stressed...two instant mood killers; and a condition that is likely chronic among many.

"Netflix and chill" is the modern term for hooking up, but for many it probably simply means what it means...to sit and relax.

I don't blame Netflix or phones or anything other than the fact that simply getting by in the USA has become a chore for many, and Netflix and phones are the salve, not the root cause.

Re: Americans are having less sex and researchers are blaming Netflix

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Post by amelius »

mamon wrote: post #12
insickness wrote: post #8

I would attribute it more the glut of free online porn than netflix. Men consume porn far more than women because men are more visually stimulated than women. This has been verified by numerous scientific studies. In many ways, women can't compete with porn. Hundreds of years ago, the average man would be delighted to get sex from the average woman in his local community. Through porn, your average guy has seen more…

>> "videos of the the most physically attractive women imaginable" Is it just me, or are most of the porn stars really just little above average, when it comes to looks? Like 7/10? The women that I would call "most attractive women imaginable" are all regular movie/pop stars, not porn stars.

Wasn't there research that showed that pretty means "more average"? Wait, I found a link:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/oct/18/why-we-...

Re: Americans are having less sex and researchers are blaming Netflix

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Post by always_good »

xandar11 wrote: post #42

I've experienced a traumatic event recently. After being rejected by hundreds of women, I'm still a virgin at 24. Recently, I saw a video in weird corners of the internet of a very cute girl copulating with some dog. Dog can get laid easily while for me it's impossible at this point. Women are telling me that I'm BENEATH a dog. They'd rather be copulating with a dog, cucumber, dildo or stay single than be with me :(

Well, for one thing, you know exactly what you're getting into when fucking a dildo. It doesn't come with feelings or emotions or a sense of inferiority. There's no social baggage attached to the arrangement. It's also always available to fuck. It's not gonna tell its friends nor yours. You just fuck it and clean it.

So don't take it personally.

Same reason why men and women watch porn even when they are in a fulfilling relationship. Most people aren't in a relationship with a sexual object constantly available at the snap of a finger. Masturbation helps bridge asymmetries in libido and availability. It's not personal.

Anyways, I agree with the other commenter. If you're feeling that virginity is winding around your self-identity, then I think the healthiest thing to do is pay for some sex. You'll be in a better mental place.

If you've actually approached hundreds of women without any success, that's pretty concerning. But I have a hard time believing you've actually directly approached that many women without any results. For example, people more likely err on the side of being too indirect and then assuming it's rejection when the other person doesn't do the escalation for them.

Re: Americans are having less sex and researchers are blaming Netflix

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Post by [deleted] »

cbstory wrote: post #41
insickness wrote: post #8

I would attribute it more the glut of free online porn than netflix. Men consume porn far more than women because men are more visually stimulated than women. This has been verified by numerous scientific studies. In many ways, women can't compete with porn. Hundreds of years ago, the average man would be delighted to get sex from the average woman in his local community. Through porn, your average guy has seen more…

This pretty speculative and kind of sexist. I mean you could kind of flip it around, only instead of men and porn it's women and dating apps. That the likes of tinder makes the most attractive men far more accessible to women, so they are no longer interested in the average man. And similarly tinder apps and the like have drastically reduced the costs of dating compared to the past. It's private, you only get hit on…

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Re: Americans are having less sex and researchers are blaming Netflix

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Post by yodsanklai »

insickness wrote: post #8

I would attribute it more the glut of free online porn than netflix. Men consume porn far more than women because men are more visually stimulated than women. This has been verified by numerous scientific studies. In many ways, women can't compete with porn. Hundreds of years ago, the average man would be delighted to get sex from the average woman in his local community. Through porn, your average guy has seen more…

> I would attribute it more the glut of free online porn than netflix.

I can see why porn has an impact in people having less sex but, porn is nothing new. When I was a teenager in the 80s, porn was readily available in VHS. Slightly less convenient that online porn, but equivalent for most purpose.

> Men are far less willing to deal with all the pitfalls, annoyance and cost of dating

There's much more than sex in a relationship, and even in dating. Many people see dating as an enjoyable activity, not an annoyance that stands between them and their appetite for sex.

Re: Americans are having less sex and researchers are blaming Netflix

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Post by ozim »

throwawaymonkie wrote: post #16

I worry that #metoo also scares men of from approaching women?

Actually in the Netherlands you can get fine or get jailed for catcalling https://dutchreview.com/news/dutch-news/rotterdam-ban-catcal... .

My girlfriend was called by some creeps at least couple of times on the streets of Amsterdam wintertime in winter clothes. Freaking insane.

Approaching women has its place like parties, social gatherings where you can actually dance or have conversation. If you have friends outing and friend brings his/her other friends that you have something in common is also ok. When you are random stranger it is never acceptable to hit on a girl.

Small talk should be ok but that does not constitute "approaching women" in context of this topic and should be carefull. If you are creep don't talk to random ladies, practice first with someone you know.

Re: Americans are having less sex and researchers are blaming Netflix

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Post by runarb »

cbstory wrote: post #41
insickness wrote: post #8

I would attribute it more the glut of free online porn than netflix. Men consume porn far more than women because men are more visually stimulated than women. This has been verified by numerous scientific studies. In many ways, women can't compete with porn. Hundreds of years ago, the average man would be delighted to get sex from the average woman in his local community. Through porn, your average guy has seen more…

This pretty speculative and kind of sexist. I mean you could kind of flip it around, only instead of men and porn it's women and dating apps. That the likes of tinder makes the most attractive men far more accessible to women, so they are no longer interested in the average man. And similarly tinder apps and the like have drastically reduced the costs of dating compared to the past. It's private, you only get hit on…

> That the likes of tinder makes the most attractive men far more accessible to women, so they are no longer interested in the average man.

I think that has already started to happen: https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g...

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