Tinder and the Dating Apocalypse (2015)

Post by ImSkeptical » Mon, Sep 04, 2017, 1:17 AM UTC

newprint wrote: post #14

jonesin wrote: post #10

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At the same time, after 10 years of no interest in women and vice versa (I'm 30), and watching all my friends and workmates of both sexes go through so much turmoil in their romantic lives, I've become a bitterly cynical fucker. Of course, I haven't ever used any of these apps or websites - maybe I've been left by the wayside because of it. I'm just not interested in finding someone that way - I've no interest in a r…

You can't become Cynical fucker. Go through the turmoil. I am 34/M. And had few women in my live. I meet a love of my love from Switzerland, 34F. Nothing worked out, I was left devastated. But it is best experience in my life(35y/o.M). Do it. You will become a better man. Majority of my friend divorced by the time they reach 35-40. They have kids. They have someone to look after AND they have kids that will look afte…

Post by [deleted] » Mon, Sep 04, 2017, 1:37 AM UTC

smnrchrds wrote: post #42

Mz wrote: post #38

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Yeah, love should have nothing to do with marriage. It should totally be about bank balances. /s

Love is important, but it is not the only factor. I think we both agree that future plans, e.g. whether or not one wants to have children, are important factors that should not be overlooked. I believe that economic status, religious and political beliefs and affiliations, risk tolerance, etc. are also important considerations. None of them is a deal-breaker, but these are all things one should carefully consider bef…

Post by sverige » Mon, Sep 04, 2017, 1:53 AM UTC

Mz wrote: post #38

smnrchrds wrote: post #36

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I didn't mean that software engineers should marry software engineers, geologists marry geologists, etc. What I meant was professionals should consider marrying other professionals, e.g. a software engineer marrying a geologist.

Yeah, love should have nothing to do with marriage. It should totally be about bank balances. /s

Post by corporateslave3 » Mon, Sep 04, 2017, 2:15 AM UTC

Mz wrote: post #39

I decided at age 16 to opt out of "dating." To my mind, "dating" is about men spending money on women in hopes of getting laid. It isn't a great courtship model ( courtship is the correct term for the lengthy process of establishing a serious, committed, long term relationship). Our dating practices are rooted in a culture where men make money, women are primarily wives and moms. This is no longer true, so it should…

Post by DrScump » Mon, Sep 04, 2017, 3:34 AM UTC

sverige wrote: post #22

kyleschiller wrote: post #11

One factor largely absent here (and actually obscured by their choice to interview investment bankers) is the huge amount of financial anxiety facing young people in America.[0] Crippling student debt, a lack of savings and inability to find high-paying jobs can make the prospects of starting a family or even serious relationship hugely unattractive. The assertion in this article that Tinder is great because you can…

There's also the high risk of marriage ending in divorce and losing half (or more) of your financial assets when the relationship falls apart. That has been keeping a lot of men from marrying, which is another factor that drives some portion of them to avoid marriage by design.