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My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Re: My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Post by ML_God »

jandrese wrote: post #19
Danihan wrote: post #11

"150 dates without success" --> what happens when engineering meets the red pilled world of dating.

Seems like the problem was that his bot didn't filter very well and ended up matching him with tons of people that he had to instantly reject on the date. I wonder if there is a mentality problem here too. He had invested so little into each date that there was little incentive to put in the effort to pierce the surface and look for common interests. Going on 150 dates and not finding a single match tells me that you…

Exactly, should've used ML.

Re: My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Post by belorn »

Interesting article, but in the context of serious process and scientific methods, the rape statistics quoted in the article is the exact opposite. The "1 in 5 US women is estimated to be raped before age 25" comes from a single study where they did a voluntary survey in one US university campus. It reflecting of the set of students during that year on that campus that decided to answer that survey. The national average today could be 1 in 5, it could be much more or much less.

Re: My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Post by notadoc »

jandrese wrote: post #19
Danihan wrote: post #11

"150 dates without success" --> what happens when engineering meets the red pilled world of dating.

Seems like the problem was that his bot didn't filter very well and ended up matching him with tons of people that he had to instantly reject on the date. I wonder if there is a mentality problem here too. He had invested so little into each date that there was little incentive to put in the effort to pierce the surface and look for common interests. Going on 150 dates and not finding a single match tells me that you…

> Going on 150 dates and not finding a single match tells me that you are shooting outside of your league.

Total nonsense attitude. You should never feel "outside of your league" for many reasons, particularly since you never know who you are compatible with. Don't be afraid to aim high in a partner.

Re: My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Post by 45h34jh53k4j »

45h34jh53k4j wrote: post #40

I find this creepy and weird. How could you possibly tell the love of your life (if and when you found that person) that they were nothing more than a toy in your little data harvesting exercise.

Also -- here is a good moral thermometer:

"PS: I will not open-source the code since it could be used to hurt people, but I might share it if you ask nicely."

If you write code for fun (not commercially owned IP), and you are not willing to share it because 'it could hurt people', you might want to re-evaluate if you should write it in the first place.

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Post by cJ0th »

From solely reading the headline I had no idea how far the author took this. Kudos for this very interesting piece of "research"!

I am surprised by the horrible outcome, though, since meeting 150 women is quit a lot. I'd have expected to see at least a short-term relationship coming out of this. It's almost like those generic (but in no way bad) messages exclusively attract the "wrong" women.

Re: My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Post by watty »

sillysaurus3 wrote: post #32
watty wrote: post #28

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yes, it is still unethical. > Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else before a divorce. Are you saying that you should continue to live off of the spouse's salary while shopping on the side?

It's easy to turn this question around: Are you saying that you should live your life beholden to someone else just because they're supporting you financially? Isn't that servitude?

Beholden to someone? Servitude?

I'm simply saying that it's unethical to live off of someone else's salary, in marriage, while trying to find a replacement (it's called an affair).

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