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Re: 30 minutes with a stranger

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Post by qrobit »

swiftcoder wrote: post #118
sema4hacker wrote: post #22

On a site designed like this where I tend to not notice the scroll bar, I usually just click on the things I see to try and make something happen. In this case, not much happens from clicks (because the site desperately needs a graphic to encourage you to scroll), so I quickly lose interest and bail.

I don’t really understand this viewpoint - scrolling has always been the default way to see more content on a webpage. Clicking on things to navigate is very much a secondary activity. Why would you not scroll every web page to see if there is more content that didn’t fit on your screen?

I suppose because modern websites are actually apps, in an app you click on stuff to see more content

If web page does not look like a blog or a newsletter, it is not wrong to assume the app format

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Post by BrandoElFollito »

lordnacho wrote: post #115

It's the internet. When you talk to people online, it often descends into pettiness. When you talk to people in the real world, that rarely happens. But it's much easier to talk online, so people get the wrong impression. You should talk to strangers. It's never gone wrong for me. Most people have a warmth and agreeableness that comes out when you are there with them, talking about stuff. There's also the interesting…

I learned the hard way that religion is something best left aside in discussions.

I am an absolute atheist, and I believe that people who are educated in science and are religions have some kind of mental illness. This is just too set the context :) I also used to be very active on radio about science vs religion.

First, people who are hard core religious may get off their way to cure you. I had people yelling in front of my house. I never saw physicists doing the same.

But that's a perk of the "atheism job" :)

I had something much worse happening to me. A friend of mine was religions, from a very religions family. We had long discussions and she gradually realized that her while world is going to shit when she discovered the insanity of religion. She got into a deep depression and tried to commit suicide. I was with her 7 years until she somehow snapped back to a normal life.

I never attempted to turn an individual anymore. Sure, general information about rational hygiene (religion, homeopathy, ...) but not on z 1:1 basis.

Re: 30 minutes with a stranger

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Post by danhite »

alexashka wrote: post #314
lordnacho wrote: post #115

It's the internet. When you talk to people online, it often descends into pettiness. When you talk to people in the real world, that rarely happens. But it's much easier to talk online, so people get the wrong impression. You should talk to strangers. It's never gone wrong for me. Most people have a warmth and agreeableness that comes out when you are there with them, talking about stuff. There's also the interesting…

> So folks, practice talking to people. Much of what's wrong in the current world is actually loneliness, having no outlet for your expressions. If I had a penny for every bizarre theory people who ruin the world believe about who/what is actually ruining the world. My favourite was an interview with Jerry Springer. He also had a theory of what's wrong in the current world and none of it had anything to do with what…

> My favourite was an interview with Jerry Springer. He also had a theory of what's wrong in the current world and none of it had anything to do with what he did.

FWIW, later in his life there are many findable examples of Jerry finding fault with what he did--since I recalled seeing him express mea culpas I took the time to give you this early (jocular) example from 2014 :

https://youtu.be/eBL00CcBF40?si=PXXc5oJk9atlWKjv

"Jerry Springer Apologizes For His Career" -- Dish Network (~1 minute clip)

Re: 30 minutes with a stranger

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Post by muddi900 »

"They reported feeling better"

Has anyone ever controlled for the fact that people lie? Especially about how they feel. Furthermore, people don't even know how they feel half the time.

How do you even measure this?

Re: 30 minutes with a stranger

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Post by thenoblesunfish »

fragmede wrote: post #6
thenoblesunfish wrote: post #3

Beautiful. I have certainly noticed that, at work, despite my desire to be efficient, without this sort of thing, it becomes unbearable no matter how interesting the actual work is.

what type of work environment are you usually in?

Big company software engineering, plenty of remote coworkers.

Re: 30 minutes with a stranger

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Post by DiscourseFan »

Cthulhu_ wrote: post #373
DiscourseFan wrote: post #372

Earlier quoted context omitted.

On the other hand, I get to move around freely and I make enough money to live just about anywhere, and some places like a king?

Yeah, but you're alone. I think this is worse if you're rich-rich; if you move to a house you can afford you'll live with a different demographic, your employees / staff will no longer treat you like an equal, you and your possibly-family have a target on your back if you're known, and if you go to places for the rich - gyms, golf clubs, etc - you run into a completely different demographic, too. But on the other han…

Actually, for me, on account of the particular circumstances of my career, I actually have close friends all over the world, and its easier for me to fly out to the various cities where they live, that I am now quite familiar with, than to tie myself down to one particular place. I mean certainly traveling was lonelier when I was younger, but now it feels more like I live in one giant city composed of all the great metropolies of the world.

Re: 30 minutes with a stranger

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Post by chipsrafferty »

0xDEAFBEAD wrote: post #317
RataNova wrote: post #127

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Online, it feels like we're all half-performing for an invisible audience, so the incentives skew toward snark or point-scoring. In person, there's no scoreboard, just two humans trying to get through the moment together

An interesting "control case" is random-chat websites like Omegle. I spent many many hours on that site before it shut down. Omegle pairs you up with a single random stranger, so there's no audience. I typically used it in text-only mode, so there's no face-to-face communication either. I'd say my experience was closer to the "30 minutes with a stranger" study than it was to modern social media. It was fairly common…

Omegle still exists.
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