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Post by jedberg »

gorgonian wrote: post #373
some_furry wrote: post #128

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> Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate. Being young and LGBTQIA+, I can assure you that I never discuss my dating life at work or with my relatives (none of whom know I'm gay, but thankfully, I don't live with them anymore). Until there are strict federal ant…

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Dave Chappelle is also an intolerant prick when it comes to gender and race, so it may not be so wise to quote him on that.

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Post by adjkant »

JesseAldridge wrote: post #320
tyre wrote: post #100

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How old is old? I'm 28 and would not use this because I don't trust Facebook. My little brother is 16 and I know he won't use this because no one he knows uses Facebook. I don't even think he has an account. They're all on Snapchat and IG. I was talking to him about this last week. They all think of Facebook as for a different generation. As stale. I feel similarly and know a lot of my circle does too. Except for eve…

> My little brother is 16 and I know he won't use this because no one he knows uses Facebook. Is this really true? I heard from someone at Facebook that while teenagers say they don't use Facebook, if you look at the stats, they definitely do.

Very true in my experience. While many (maybe 60%) still have an account, they basically do nothing with it. If you're a Facebook employee you may see that number of signups number and go "yeah they are using it" but the amount of use is VERY different from what I can tell.

Generally I'm very in agreement with the parent: The older won't want to use Facebook for dating, the younger would never look to Facebook.

That said, I'd go even farther and say the original claims are offbase here. First, teens absolutely have multiple personas they show, but they tend to be privacy circle based in that there are maybe 3/4 levels and they share increasingly more/less with each level.

Not only that, Facebook knows this. Instagram launched "close friends" explicitly because everyone was using "sinstas" and "finstas" to post to a smaller subset of people.

To me, all of this says that Facebook is probably targeting an older market of maybe say Match/OkCupid users who aren't used to a type of Hinge style interface. Anyone I know on Hinge would laugh you out of the room if you asked them to switch to Facebook dating.

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Post by doubleunplussed »

Myrmornis wrote: post #389
dahfizz wrote: post #378

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I still don't understand. Occasionally you need a phone number to sign up, but I've never needed a phone number to log in to something unless 2FA get triggered. But in any case, nobody else knows what phone number I used to create an account.

WhatsApp

Switching sims doesnt log me out of whatsapp either - as far as i can tell its totally optional whether i want to update my whatsapp number to my phone number or not.

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Post by adjkant »

hombre_fatal wrote: post #142
mabermoske wrote: post #138

If I look at who I know that is still using fb it is almost exclusively older people. I'm 33 and deleted my fb account, almost every person I know younger than me either did the same or was never on in the first place. I see this being huge for older adults who are divorced or widowed, those are the people still using fb and I think would be happy to use this service.

Counter-anecdote: I'm 30 and have yet to meet someone in my dating/friend range (20-35) that never had Facebook here in Mexico or home in Austin. I'd be curious if you're socializing in some sort of anti-FB bubble or actually have a sample size of like 5 people when you consider the people you actually know this info about.

23 here, my age exactly tends to be mostly but few actively use it. Even just 2 years younger and it drops a ton. I only myself use it for 2 meme groups. The only people I even talk to on messenger are one friend, my grandma, and the random person who doesn't have my number.

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Post by 9nGQluzmnq3M »

chomp wrote: post #263
andreilys wrote: post #222

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>To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. In China WeChat is synonymous with both your business and personal life. When networking and meeting business contacts you don’t give out your LinkedIn, you give out your WeChat.

Do people have multiple WeChat accounts in China?

You need to provide government ID to unlock many features of WeChat, so that's likely difficult.

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Post by skinnymuch »

twic wrote: post #292
ummonk wrote: post #159

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Right, I mean secret crush seems like a real improvement over the status quo in its ability to discover potential relationships without risking making existing friendships awkward.

You would think. Those of us who have been wasting time on the internet for long enough remember the Secret Crush Meme from LiveJournal [1], which worked just like this. It was great up until someone realised they could just say they had a crush on everyone they knew to get a list of who had crushes on them, without any genuine reciprocity of the crush. If you could figure out a way to make it somehow costly to false…

Generally speaking for 99%+ of people, You shouldn’t have more than a few crushes at once. And they shouldn’t change that often. That would’ve curbed that a lot without restricting many people

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Post by skinnymuch »

bitbuilder wrote: post #101
taude wrote: post #77

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I didn't think young people used the Facebook brand anymore? If all the stories that have been published about that are to be believed.

I have plenty of people in my extended friend group who are in their mid to late 20s, and most of them are still quite active on FB. Nobody thinks it's cool or fun anymore, of course. But it's still the go-to spot for sharing life events, family news, anything you want to brag about really. Or any vacation pictures that you'd like grandma and grandpa to see. IG is still image driven, so it's not a platform you can ea…

Late 20s is def old (I can personally attest to that). Mid 20s might be too? In the context of what’s being discussed here.

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Post by mirimir »

basch wrote: post #254
asdfman123 wrote: post #179

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> it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. It seems like a mistake. If you have one persona, that means…

It wouldnt be as big a deal, had facebook started as your "public" identity, like linkedin. But instead everybody who signed up 10 years ago was using it as their "private identity with a couple friends."

Way back, Facebook was a place to post pictures of yourself being very drunk.
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