I get where you're coming from, but I do think you're doing a disservice to yourself and your team by not doing granular commits. This doesn't mean splitting changes into arbitrary chunks, or that each commit must be of a specific size, but that each commit does a single change. I find conventional commits helpful for this, since they force you into thinking about the type of change, which naturally limits the commit scope. I don't do a perfect job at this either, and often bundle unrelated changes into one commit if I'm being lazy, but usually I strive to keep it clean.
There are many benefits of doing this. When following the output of `blame`, you can see exactly why a change was made, down to the line or statement level. This is very helpful for newcomers to the codebase, and yourself in a few months time. It's invaluable for `bisect` and locating the precise change that introduced an issue. It's very useful for cherry picking specific changes across branches, or easily reverting them, as you mention. It makes it easier to write descriptive changelogs, especially if you also use conventional commits, which nowadays can be automated with LLMs. And so on.
Most of these tasks are very difficult or impossible if you don't have a clean history. Yes, they require discipline, time, and effort to do correctly, but it saves you and the team so much time and effort in the long run.
Ultimately, it's up to each person or team to use a VCS in whatever way they're most comfortable with. But ignoring or outright rejecting certain practices that can make your life as a developer easier and more productive, even though they require more time and effort upfront, is a very short-sighted mentality.
> I think the primary difference between the two of us is that you write huge commit messages and I don't
The commit I linked to is an outlier, and if you see my other commit messages, most are a few sentences long. It's not about writing a lot, but about describing the change: what led to it, why it was implemented in a specific way, mention any contextual information, trade-offs, external links, etc. In that particular case it was a major feature (indicated by the exclamation point in the subject) that changed large parts of the code base, so it deserved a bit more context. I was also feeling a particular way and used the opportunity to vent, which isn't a good place for it, but since this is a personal project, I don't mind it. Although how the programmer felt while writing the code is also relevant contextual information, and I would gladly read it from someone else in order to understand their state of mind and point of view better.
Also, these days with LLMs you can quickly summarize large amounts of text, so there's no harm in writing a lot, but you can never add context that doesn't exist in the first place.