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Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by imtringued »

user5994461 wrote: post #210
greggman2 wrote: post #121

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Have you seen https://www.whatsyourprice.com/ ? Most amazing spin ever. Here's the ad targeted at women https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GK2MrUOfAPE and the one targeted at men https://vimeo.com/21179683 Also https://misstravel.com and their pitch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JLSiy4nUvnc

Wow, this is as close to escorting as it gets. I could think of a gentle spin where the money would go to pay the date (restaurant/drinks/activity), which is expensive anyway, but the way it's framed I am speechless.

Yeah, attractive people should be able to build a wish list of dates (restaurant, cafe, movie) with a price tag and less attractive people could then choose whether they want an expensive, medium or cheap date with that person. It would still have an element of escorting because there is an incentive to go on as many dates as possible but there would be no reward beyond the date itself.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by imtringued »

crazygringo wrote: post #273
chroem- wrote: post #36

Dating apps are extremely broken, and yet they're almost all owned by a single company: Match Group. I have a suspicion that these apps are left intentionally broken to keep users fruitlessly searching and boost engagement metrics. I can't find a complete list of the companies they've acquired, but last time I checked, Match owns over 20 different apps and dating sites, including Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge. We really…

Sorry, but they're not extremely broken. I worked at OkCupid 8 years ago, saw the issues they faced then and have seen the evolution of the apps since then, and right now they really are as good as anyone's been able to come up with that attracts enough active users to generate promising dates. If there were a drastically better solution, then it would take over the market. The last major innovation was when Tinder i…

Successful dating apps suffer from a shrinking user base.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by perl4ever »

MadWombat wrote: post #370
vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

I thought about similar ideas, but I think it solves a problem (women want to get fewer messages) while ignoring the main goal (women want the messages to be from the guys they would like to meet). Once messages start costing a significant amount of money, only the truly desperate and/or predatory will be sending the messages.

A simple method of filtering that occurred to me a long time ago -

Make the service completely free, but require a credit rating above a certain threshold. Possibly apply that to men but not women.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by noman-land »

vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

Wouldn't this create a scenario where the most attractive people only end up talking to the wealthiest courters?

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Post by empath75 »

viklove wrote: post #213
empath75 wrote: post #139

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> in most markets men are at a significant disadvantage because of how men and women differ in the way they approach dating This is such a ridiculous thing to say. A significant disadvantage compared to _who_? Other men? That sort of negates your statement? The women on the platform? Men aren't competing against women on the platform to find a date, for the most part. I think you're sort of dancing around the issue t…

It's not at all a ridiculous thing to say... Men and women have significantly different experiences using dating apps, and if you were able to release an app that solved the problem many men face (being completely ignored for years), you would probably capture a large segment of the market.

Do you think any women get ignored on dating sites?

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by kylebenzle »

vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

Women use those apps to boost self esteem, not find a date.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by hippich »

vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

Or perhaps just remove profiles from search results once such profile received X number of messages per day/week/month. Or maybe based on unresponded/unreacted messages. Or something along that way where limit realistically allows to process messages.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by vlasev »

koonsolo wrote: post #328
chroem- wrote: post #36

Dating apps are extremely broken, and yet they're almost all owned by a single company: Match Group. I have a suspicion that these apps are left intentionally broken to keep users fruitlessly searching and boost engagement metrics. I can't find a complete list of the companies they've acquired, but last time I checked, Match owns over 20 different apps and dating sites, including Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge. We really…

I'm not intentionally trying to be rude here, but if you are able to go on dates, Tinder is working just fine. It is a dating app after all. If you are unable to take it a step further than the dating, it's not Tinders fault. My wife is a dating coach, and it always amazes her (and me) how unwilling men are to learn and improve themselves. It is not working for them, yet they don't accept advice that could drasticall…

The parent comment said nothing about being able to go on dates. I don't know where you read that. It could really be Tinder's fault. I've used it over the last few years and while my profile hasn't changed appreciably, I noticed way less success with the app over the past year alone.

As for self-development, I agree with you that men tend to be unwilling to learn a lot of the time. But from what I've seen from women, they also don't really want to learn. It's how people are.

Tinder is, for the most part, heavily reliant on first impressions with regard to looks. If you are a man and you are seeking women on Tinder, you better have your shit together when it comes to that, or you're not going to get anywhere.

This means high-quality photos, clothes, haircut and so on. I'm not saying this is a lot, because dating can be expensive anyway. It's more so that men are not really encouraged to invest in their looks and wardrobe as much as women are.

If you're getting matches and you're not converting them to dates, well, that's another thing entirely.

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Post by vlasev »

throwaway_date1 wrote: post #316
babaeth wrote: post #48

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Do you have any suggestions to improve dating apps?

I am wanting to be social again after a divorce, and am not willing to join any of the dating apps currently available. Here is what I'd like to see: First-name only user names, real names/account names should be hidden or opaque No association with or dependency on external social media accounts Reasonable monthly service fee (around $10/month) with the promise of no advertising, tracking, geotracking, or selling of…

Tinder has points 1, 2 (if you use your phone number), the first part of 3 (but it's more like $20) and 6. Some apps have certain no-match criteria.

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Post by likeclockwork »

perl4ever wrote: post #383
MadWombat wrote: post #370

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I thought about similar ideas, but I think it solves a problem (women want to get fewer messages) while ignoring the main goal (women want the messages to be from the guys they would like to meet). Once messages start costing a significant amount of money, only the truly desperate and/or predatory will be sending the messages.

A simple method of filtering that occurred to me a long time ago - Make the service completely free, but require a credit rating above a certain threshold. Possibly apply that to men but not women.

If you insist on treating every man who wants to use your service like a john I'm not sure you're going to like the men you get.
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