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> yeah i try to do that but then other cars just merge in between the space i leave in front of me and force me to be on their tail. Which is perfectly fine - it's safer that way. Not wanting to feel like a 'loser' is understandable - but when it is life and limb that's on the line; I know which side I'd rather be. On the other side is road rage and stupid games of chicken with your life on the line.
How is it safe? You now have almost no distance from the car on your front, and it is almost certainly slower than you.
If following distance