All the world is a stage, FB wants to be that stage.
Facebook Dating
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Re: Facebook Dating
#362Seems weird it shows you mutual friends. Part of the appeal of online dating is stepping outside of your friend circles and looking elsewhere. I definitely wouldn't want to broadcast my dating profile to mutual friends either.
Re: Facebook Dating
#363Earlier quoted context omitted.
> it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. It seems like a mistake. If you have one persona, that means…
Being in silicon valley, I don't think the single persona thing is something that tech people like at all, but rather something unique to facebook or more specifically zuck and his fans. We might recognize that the internet never forgets and just don't put much out there, but that is a bit different than embracing a single persona life.
I'm not even sure Zuck likes it. It just makes things easier for him and his team of data miners to monetize your information.
Re: Facebook Dating
#364Earlier quoted context omitted.
You add all your friends to your secret crush list, and find everyone who's added you? The exploit is built in.
It sounds like they limited this to 9 friends, but if you can still cycle through the list it’ll be problematic.
You presumably will still avoid obvious social nukes like crushing on your friend's wife.
I don't see much downside to the crush system. If someone's going to have a hissy fit or ruin relationships because they insist on doing the work of cycling through all their friends, then, well, they should be careful for what they wish for.
Re: Facebook Dating
#365Earlier quoted context omitted.
You can only have 9 Secret Crushes at a time. Believe it or not, they actually have put some thought into their final product based on the beta tests conducted in smaller international markets.
Ok, so then you rotate that list through your friends. They might make it tedious to go through all my friends, but if I'm determined enough, I can do it.
Well, let me finish your hypothetical situation for you.
You: "Sorry buddy, I wasn't really using the thing, I just added everyone, but thanks for letting me know you like me! Haha gotcha! :D"
Them: "Oh, okay... [You fuckin' weirdo. -20 rapport]"
I don't really see the epic exploit here.
Re: Facebook Dating
#366I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…
it may be true in united states, but in other parts of the world, facebook dating could work
Re: Facebook Dating
#367Earlier quoted context omitted.
In my opinion, it might actually prove to be better than letting people decide based on super superficial attributes on dating profiles. Online dating completely sucks, guys have no choice, girls have too many bad choices.
There are other dating apps outside of Tinder and Bumble. I am married, so I don't use them personally, but my friends use/used Tinder/Bumble for more casual dating/hook ups. When they were looking for something a little more serious they would use something like OK Cupid to provide matches based on similar interests. Either way, I don't see how online dating will ever not suck. I have no clue how it is in gay commun…
Online dating just makes obvious the reality of actual dating.
For example, HNers talk about online dating as though they think they aren't being sized up in real life based on their looks and how they dress. And that it wasn't until Tinder that people started doing this.
Re: Facebook Dating
#368I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…
> it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. It seems like a mistake. If you have one persona, that means…
When I was researching early history of Google+, I ran across mention of NSTIC, the National Strategy for Trusted Identities in Cyberspace.
Source was Kristine Schachinger's G+ post-mortem:
In the years between 2009-2015 (loosely speaking), there was a push by corporate entities and governments around the world to build an online ecosystem that could replace passwords.
Not only did they want to replace passwords, but they wanted to help better identify the person behind the log-in as a real human, a verified person.
This “verified” identity was to make it, so users were known to the companies they interacted with online.
https://www.searchenginejournal.com/google-plus-history-deat...
That inquiry was sparked by Andy Carvin's infamous Q&A with then Google CEO Eric Schmidt:
G+ was built primarily as an identity service, so fundamentally, it depends on people using their real names
https://mashable.com/2011/08/28/google-plus-identity-service...
The National Strategy for Trusted Identities in Cyberspace proposal itself: https://www.gpo.gov/fdsys/pkg/CHRG-112hhrg73124/pdf/CHRG-112... (PDF) (p.26)
(Other Trusted Identity providers included ... Equifax: https://obamawhitehouse.archives.gov/blog/2011/10/14/advanci...)
The project was defunded in 2015.
Alex Howard wrote an excellent O'Reilly Radar piece, "A Manhattan Project for Online Identity"
http://radar.oreilly.com/2011/05/nstic-analysis-identity-pri...
My sense is that the entire social media push had a strong national policy agenda behind it. Which appears to have backfired somewhat.
Disclaimer: I helped organise migration off Google+, under the pseudonymous identity of a space alien cat. Dogs are so passe.
Re: Facebook Dating
#369Earlier quoted context omitted.
How does having two sims help with that? I switch out my SIM when I travel internationally, but I am still logged into all my accounts.
Many accounts are tied to a phone number.
I use VoIP numbers for that, although I understand it's not an option for all countries.
Re: Facebook Dating
#370Earlier quoted context omitted.
>To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want. In China WeChat is synonymous with both your business and personal life. When networking and meeting business contacts you don’t give out your LinkedIn, you give out your WeChat.
Do people have multiple WeChat accounts in China?
I don't know from within China, but from outside China, you can link it to a VoIP account.