> My team was 5 women and one man: two of us trans, three women of color
Keep in mind that her team helps writes her performance reviews.
> For my first few pull requests, I was getting feedback from literally dozens of engineers (all of whom were male) on other teams, nitpicking the code I had written.
Oh no people were reviewing a new engineer's code. (male employees. you know what that means)
> The post was submitted for editorial review. It was decided that the tone of what I had written was too personal and didn't reflect the voice of the company.
Translation: I wrote a ranty screed and my employer, which unlike me understands the importance of polite communication and cares about its public image, declined to publish it verbatim.
> But pair programming simply didn't happen at GitHub. I would occasionally get another engineer to share a screen to walk me through a particularly hairy subsystem, but actual pairing was extremely rare and I missed it.
Gee I wonder why nobody wanted to pair program with you.
> When I talked to my manager about how she was progressing, I was told to stop the formal mentoring and allow this person to "learn at her own pace, without any pressure from you."
Translation: Your mentee is complaining about you being a huge asshole.
> She told me that the data scientist who had written the survey questions was very upset and had gone to her manager to complain about me.
Guessing this wasn't the first incident.
> This was the first instance of what came to be referred to as my "non-empathetic communication style".
Lol.
> My manager accused me of shutting down the conversation by making it personal.
You would never do such a thing.
> My overall review was a "Does Not Meet Expectations."
Surprise! Your coworkers hate you.
> The same day that I had this review, I got some devastating personal news. I have bipolar depression and was already in a bad place mentally
Aaand here come the excuses.
> she said she felt like I was trying to manipulate her by sharing my feelings in the hopes of influencing the PIP.
You weren't though, right? Right?
> GitHub has made some very public commitments to turning its culture around, but I feel now that these statements are just PR.
Yes this has everything to do with Github's culture and nothing to do with your performance as an employee.