The fetishization of tools is one of the things that mark a dilettante mindset. You see it on all hobbies, e.g. when the someone sees a photograph and their first question is about what camera and optics were used. No question about composition, light, the moment, creativity... they only care for the tools. The technique and knowledge is the important thing, not the tools. They forget the good practitioner can do a g…
But "fake it until you make it" is part of life too and everyone wants to belong and to be taken seriously. You can't always just "do the hobby for fun" if you want to be social since anxious intermediates whose own output is still crap will gate-keep.
If you can, find hobbies that bring you joy and do them alone, free from the influence of too much right and wrong, at least in the first stages.
In the context of terminal emulators, idk, do something like learn AWK purely for personal enjoyment. You may not have the flashiest dotfiles or color schemes or whatever, but you'll be able to do arcane stuff in the terminal that will give you confidence you belong and others will be amazed by.