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Children of married parents do better, but America is moving the other way

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Re: Children of married parents do better, but America is moving the other way

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> the cultural influence of Appalachia That's an incredible stretch. There are a number of other factors worth mentioning: - The philosophy of John Locke, who greatly influenced the founders - The US is a very new country, compared to those in Europe and Asia. The only preexisting culture was the Native Americans, and you (should) know what happened to them... - The US is a nation of immigrants who left (sometimes vo…

> That's an incredible stretch. The culture of Appalachia—specifically, the Scots-Irish—has been tremendously influential in America: https://reason.com/2005/07/01/the-fighting-scots-irish-2 . It is deeply wrapped up in frontier culture, interestingly because Scots-Irish were encouraged to migrate to that land to serve as a buffer against the Indians.

‘Albion’s Seed’ explores this and it’s really fascinating. You can definitely see the imprint those groups left.

This article is a good starter for explaining how the Puritan, Quaker, Cavalier, and Scots—Irish each shaped our cultural identity: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/10/04/books/review/joe-klein-ex...

Re: Children of married parents do better, but America is moving the other way

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This is one of the reasons that I think Kant's ideas on Deontology (also Confucian philosophy around relationships) is the correct one for a functioning society. There is a framework of "Right" and "Wrong" that exists outside of "Good" and "Bad". Doing what is beneficial for society, and what is expected of society is right, regardless of the Good nature of it. If society expects you to fight in a war, and you kill s…

Saying killing in war is “right” is putting a lot of words in this dead German guys mouth. Kant thought something was “right” if everyone doing it would not lead to contradiction. Killing is a common example of what is wrong, since if everyone killed no one would remain. In the 70s I would have been imprisoned for being gay, was that “right” because society deems it so?

>In the 70s I would have been imprisoned for being gay, was that “right” because society deems it so?

It seems like that would be a yes, because it's doing what you want, following your natural desires, against the will / benefit of society.

Then by your own logic

>Killing is a common example of what is wrong, since if everyone killed no one would remain.

At the most basic concept, if everyone was gay then society / humans would cease to exist after the final generation.

You can even step back and say if everyone just gave into the basic sexual desires society would be worse off. it's sort of what the article implies. Ultimately the single women with kids is because people aren't doing what society deems right and having long-term monogamous relationships. We see the effect is that the children ultimately have worse outcomes.

So it seems clear that the answer to your question would be yes, but of course you can go further and say, is "prison" ever right? Or right in that case?

Re: Children of married parents do better, but America is moving the other way

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The most disingenuous use of stats I see regularly published, are those bemoaning wealth inequality between ethnic and racial groups that don't control for family makeup. There is a 30+% difference between some groups on one vs. two parent households, but I guess that doesn't fit the right narrative an would presume people have some agency in their circumstances.

Re: Children of married parents do better, but America is moving the other way

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post #332

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> the cultural influence of Appalachia That's an incredible stretch. There are a number of other factors worth mentioning: - The philosophy of John Locke, who greatly influenced the founders - The US is a very new country, compared to those in Europe and Asia. The only preexisting culture was the Native Americans, and you (should) know what happened to them... - The US is a nation of immigrants who left (sometimes vo…

> That's an incredible stretch. The culture of Appalachia—specifically, the Scots-Irish—has been tremendously influential in America: https://reason.com/2005/07/01/the-fighting-scots-irish-2 . It is deeply wrapped up in frontier culture, interestingly because Scots-Irish were encouraged to migrate to that land to serve as a buffer against the Indians.

From the very link that you cite: "Webb's book, though well-written and often insightful, is more an exercise in ethnic self-mythologizing than an evenhanded attempt to judge the impact of the Scots-Irish and their culture on America."

Re: Children of married parents do better, but America is moving the other way

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post #354

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> That's an incredible stretch. The culture of Appalachia—specifically, the Scots-Irish—has been tremendously influential in America: https://reason.com/2005/07/01/the-fighting-scots-irish-2 . It is deeply wrapped up in frontier culture, interestingly because Scots-Irish were encouraged to migrate to that land to serve as a buffer against the Indians.

From the very link that you cite: "Webb's book, though well-written and often insightful, is more an exercise in ethnic self-mythologizing than an evenhanded attempt to judge the impact of the Scots-Irish and their culture on America."

The complete paragraph indicates a different tone:

> But the Scots-Irish impact on American politics is more problematic than Webb would have us believe. The populist politics they pioneered doesn't necessarily produce the sort of values that sustain liberty. Indeed, the democratic impulse toward comfort and safety often undercuts self-reliance and individualism. Webb's book, though well-written and often insightful, is more an exercise in ethnic self-mythologizing than an evenhanded attempt to judge the impact of the Scots-Irish and their culture on America.

My reading of the article is that the author agrees with Webb that "the Scots-Irish impact" on America was large. The point of disagreement is whether that influence was as positive as Webb says, or whether it was "more problematic than Webb would have us believe."

Re: Children of married parents do better, but America is moving the other way

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As someone from Europe, I can't understand the inability of mainstream US culture and media to disentangle marriage from long term stable relationships. Take this paragraph from the article: > More women are deciding to have children and also remain single. Almost half of all babies born in the U.S. were born to unmarried women in 2019, a dramatic increase since 1960, when only 5% of births were to unmarried mothers.…

There’s a huge amount of religious effort pushing the conflation of the two, and that’s a very powerful combination with America’s healthcare & retirement system. If you’re in a stable relationship, marriage saves many thousands of dollars per year and gives you privileged legal status for many important life events (childbirth/adoption, childcare, medical situations, retirement and end of life care).

That confuses simple analysis because most positive outcomes will strongly correlate marriage, and any researcher who has biases for whatever reason is probably not going to adequately correct for that.

Re: Children of married parents do better, but America is moving the other way

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post #297

As someone from Europe, I can't understand the inability of mainstream US culture and media to disentangle marriage from long term stable relationships. Take this paragraph from the article: > More women are deciding to have children and also remain single. Almost half of all babies born in the U.S. were born to unmarried women in 2019, a dramatic increase since 1960, when only 5% of births were to unmarried mothers.…

> As someone from Europe, I can't understand the inability of mainstream US culture and media to disentangle marriage from long term stable relationships. In the US, the category of non-marriage stable long term relationships is very small. The veneer of christian morality still exists in America, even if the substance has rotted away. So anyone who is in a stable long term relationship tends to just go ahead and pap…

You basically described Italy.

Unmarried people who got children then get married on paper just because of Christian morality, especially in the South

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And a small community of actual friends. Friendship matters re longevity. It's worth working towards.

I assume it’s a bit more likely to do with the lack of junk foods and increased physical activity.

I assume that the benefactors of a patriarchy do rather well. It naturally confers many advantages that translate into longer lifespan.

Re: Children of married parents do better, but America is moving the other way

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None of what I said is assumed. It's well defined theories of human behavior from both evolutionary psychology and anthropology. I am simply regurgitating academic facts. This is markedly different from "assumptions."

There is nothing "academic" about what you posted. If it was, there would be footnotes and sources where you mentioned things... that being said... Assumptions. You assume that most of human history that women were not equal. This is actually, quite false[1]. Only in recent western history were they unequal. This by no means dismisses the fact that women were, in fact, oppressed for several dozen of the last generati…

>You assume that most of human history that women were not equal. This is actually, quite false[1].

https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fevo.2021.67680...

You present a source with women being hunters. I never denied this. I here present a source of female and male unequal-ness as a comprehensive study across time and culture. Which do you think is more relevant to the conversation at hand? Which resource was strategically picked to fulfill some biased agenda? Obviously not the comprehensive study.

>I googled this "saying" and it was only your post that came up. Did you just make this up? lol

I googled it too and found multiple resources within minutes. The reason you didn't find it is obvious. You're not conducting a logical search with intent. You're conducting a biased search. You don't agree with me so you don't want to find a source. So subconciously you spend less effort and end up finding nothing. Typical.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-scientific-funda... https://www.lshtm.ac.uk/newsevents/news/2015/polygyny_health...

What happens next is when presented with sources against his own agenda the naysayer starts to nitpick. Starts to find as many flaws with the source as he can.

Where this saying came from. Where I first heard it was in the UCLA anthropology department. It was stated by the professor and the text book. The professor btw, was female, and so am i.

>Sure, if you have the emotional maturity of a 16 year old, this makes a lot of sense.

This isn't a response. It's an attack please present evidence. It's called paternity fraud and it's a real genetic strategy both in humans and in animals.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternity_fraud

https://canadiancrc.com/newspaper_articles/Globe_and_Mail_Mo...

https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-2002-jun-02-op-zuk.r...

>No, these are not "instincts", they are a loss of trust in a partner and no relationship can survive if there isn't trust. Open relationships exist, polygamy is a thing. I can assure you.

Polygamy is a thing. I didn't deny this in my arguments. It exists but it is beneficial to women not to men.

>I would absolutely love to see a citation for how natural selection is "accelerating" because, if anything, it is the opposite. We're having fewer children in most developed countries, not more.[2]

Having fewer children is part of natural selection. It means the children that were not "had" are naturally selected out. Natural selection happens either by not being born or being killed before reproduction. I don't think you understand.

When countries have fewer children it means MORE children are being UNSELECTED. and the natural selection process is becoming more vicious and thus "accelerating".

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Natural_selection

>Your entire comment is built on a pile of assumptions and leaps of logic that are barely coherent, with no references to back them up.

I posted sources.

>Let me tell you what is actually going on now. Women tend to work together, more so than men[3]. What this means, is that there are entire communities where they talk about who they go on dates with. I'm not even making this up.[4] This means if you are a creep, no one will date you because you are a creep. Do something stupid, every woman will know about it on your next date. So, no, there isn't some mysterious "beta" or "alpha" bullshit, it's just that women are smart enough to work together to make sure they don't date the wrong person.

Yes that society is our current society. We have entire facebook groups where we identify and red flag men who we don't want to date. As a woman we only want to date alphas. I won't date someone who makes less than me. Alphas exist in the animal world, it makes no sense to suddenly deny the existence of alphas in the human world.

Clearly there are men who are more powerful and more attractive than others. Those men are basically "alphas". Women like you and me tend to work together to improve our own successes. That means polygamous relationships with the top men. This is what I want and this is what you want.

What confuses me is that often your arguments are in agreement with mine. I don't think you're maintaining a logical stream of consistent thought.

Re: Children of married parents do better, but America is moving the other way

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This question is answered in the interview. She is saying that a household with a stable long lasting relationship is what’s driving these better outcomes. She’s also saying that in America marriage (unfortunately) seems to be the only way to keep people together for a long while (long enough for a child to not experience a parade of parents by the time they are 15 according to the article). In my personal opinion. I…

Yes hyper individuality is part of it. The other part of it is gender equality. For most of human civilization genders were not equal so both sexes evolved traits that are also unequal. The most glaring trait responsible for lack of marriage is female hypergamy. Previously women being of generally unequal/lower status then men and overall a smaller pool of candidates (no online dating) would be forced to be more egal…

Women's perspective here: this is a very beta perspective on mating strategies. Easy pass.

Curious though, have you thought about changing your perspective to increase your evolutionary fitness?

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